RenaissanceBride, I am realy leaning towards the real flowers but having fake flowers to toss at the reception and in the entry at the church. One of my cousin's had her flowers preserved before the wedding and I may do that- that way I have my flowers the entire time (I preserved my flowers from when I was festival queen and have them in a memory box with the crown, sash and all of that stuff so I want to do the same for the wedding).
As for FMIL- she is very opinionated and doesn't like it when her opinion is not used! she had already planned her baby boy's wedding and is upset because we planned our wedding our way and have completely gone opposite of what she wanted. She also believes she should have the final say on everything, but that is up to FH and myself (my m is paying and says we should have what we want).
Add FMIL onto dealing with dad's care issues, one more year of undergrad (graduate May before wedding wahoo!), planning the wedding, and the fact that I have a stress disorder (complete with panic attacks) I feel like I need the spa day NOW!!! FH, BM and her (soon to be
*shh*) FH and I are going to the casino this weekend to relax before next weeks finals AHHHH

My Goal: under $10,000. right now we are at $6,000 I believe. This includes: reception hall (with discount), max. for catering (we have a range they are working in), ceremony location and clergy preforming ceremony/pre marital counseling, photographer package (includes engagement pictures, copyrights, parent albums, huge picture for over fireplace, digital albums, all day photography- I got the old rate though for booking early *wahoo*).
People: 250.
meal: finger foods/ hordurves (sp?), and stations (ie- sandwich station, salad station, veggie (and dip) station, fruit and chocolate fountain station, dessert station, and a cake station. No alcohol, but will have coffee, punch, lemonaide, and water (well, possibly with exception of toast for head table- but everyone else and minors in the wedding party will have sparkling grape juice or sparkling apple cider)
freebies: cake is a present, flowers: wholesale cost only and only have to pay for those used for corsages, bout's, bouquets, the piano arrangement, and the three single stem roses we are putting as memorials in the windows.