That's the beauty of God's love. He is omnipotent, omnipresent, and omniscient. (All-powerful, He's everywhere, and All-knowing) As hard as it is to believe, nothing is too small that God doesn't deal with. He sees everything in our lives and in the world, and He cares. And honestly, as a Christian, I don't believe it's hypocritical to stop having sex. We can preach and preach what we believe about not having sex before marriage. And yeah, if we do it, it is hypocritical and we screwed up. But we all do that in some way, whether it's this issue or another. I'll admit it - I screw up all the time, I'm not perfect. I have been a hypocrite is so many ways at so many times. But God forgives. Everything. All we have to do is ask. Like a few of the ladies have mentioned, there's what God calls "second virginity." This is for people who have had sex before and decide that they will cease doing so and save themselves for their wedding night. Is it the same thing as being a pure virgin? No, but it the gift of saving yourself for your wedding night can be just as great to your husband and there's no more added hurts to your heart. Plus, I know a few of you ladies have said "well why not? I'm going to marry him anyway." And I agree with you to a point - I love my FH and I am going to marry him and share my life with him. But you never know. I mean, when we were on Brides.com, one girl posted how her FH took out a HUGE loan that they couldn't afford and then lied to her about it. I don't know if they're still together or trying to work things out, but the possibility is definitely there, that they may not stay together. Or personally, my FH is a firefighter, so his job is very dangerous. I know that there might be a day that he doesn't come home. What if that happens before our wedding day and we've had sex? I have then given away my virginity to someone who won't be my husband. Don't jump on me, please, but at least you can see some pretty good reasoning behind it all.
Now if you were thinking of just waiting to have sex to make your wedding night more intense, it's completely your decision too, but it's not the same thing as what I stated above. Either way, these are your decisions to make alone - no one can make them for you.
I have a friend who is an extremely strong Christian, stronger than I, really, in a lot of ways. Yet she sleeps with her boyfriend. So in that way, she is definitely being hypocritical, and she knows it and openly says that. Her thinking is - "I've messed up so many times, and I know what's right, but I just don't want to deal with the dissappointment. I know I'm going to screw up no matter how many times I try not to, so I might as well just have sex anyway." I love her to death, but she has basically given up before she's even started. It's hard to wait. Extremely hard at times. But I know that the waiting is for a great reason and it will be worth the wait. My body is for my husband alone (whether it's my FH or if circumstances make it someone else) Because I have not slept with anyone else, I have not left pieces of my heart with other men, and for that, I'm giving my FH the greatest gift.
You can agree with me or not, and honestly, it's none of my business what you do unless you choose to share it. i know and understand that most of you probably don't believe in the same things that I do. And that's okay. I promise I won't shove anything down anyone's throat, as long as you let me share what's on my heart. :) I really do love you ladies.
