Registry Etiquette
- Question:
- We're having a civil ceremony at the courthouse and then lunch with a few friends. Can we register for gifts?
- Answer:
You could, but most family and friends who aren't invited to your wedding won't be inclined to mark the moment with a present, so registering might be setting yourselves up for disappointment. If you suspect that some people (your parents' friends, for example) will want to give you a gift anyway, register for a few moderately priced items (candlesticks, picture frames) at a convenient location, and mention it only if someone asks for information.
- Should I register for a themed shower?
- How many gifts do I register for?
- How should our table linen monogram look?
- Is it OK to bring gifts to the reception?
- To whom do we send our registry info?
- Can I choose china from my 1st wedding?
- How do you say thanks for a check?
- Must thank-you cards be signed by bride and groom?
- When must the thank-yous be sent?
- When do we open and close the registry?
- Is it OK to register for wine?
- Can I send registry cards with my invitations?
- How much cash do I give a friend's son?
Submit Your Own Etiquette Question
Have an etiquette question you'd like our editors to answer?
- How do we ask for cash gifts?
- Can I change my registered china pattern?
- Can we register for a courthouse ceremony?
- Should I register for expensive items?
- Must I register for champagne flutes?
- Is it OK to register for gifts for a second (or third) wedding?
- Can we register for a mortgage?
- Can we return gifts?
- Can we ask my fiancé's guests not to give gifts?
- Does the maid of honor have to give us a gift?
- What do I do if a wedding check from a guest bounces?
- Can we register for gifts for a vow renewal?
- At which wedding-related events am I expected to give gifts?
- Can we ask people not to bring gifts to the reception?
- Can I register at local boutiques?
- Do we need to wait until thank-you notes are sent to our guests before depositing their checks?
