Registry Etiquette
- Question:
- I know that in the past, including registry information with wedding invitations was a no-no, but I've seen it in the last few invitations I received. Can I send registry cards with my invites?
- Answer:
It's never OK to mention anything about gifts in your wedding invitations. Including registry information—even on a separate card—implies that in order to attend, a guest must bring a gift. Let your bridesmaids and close relatives know the shops you've selected and they can spread the news—if asked—by word of mouth. It is, however, standard practice to have your shower hostess list the store(s) where you've registered on those invitations, since the whole purpose of that party has traditionally been to shower you with gifts.
- Can I send registry cards with my invitations?
- How much cash do I give a friend's son?
- How do we ask for cash gifts?
- Can I change my registered china pattern?
- Can we register for a courthouse ceremony?
- Should I register for expensive items?
- Must I register for champagne flutes?
- Should I register for a themed shower?
- How many gifts do I register for?
- How should our table linen monogram look?
- Is it OK to bring gifts to the reception?
- To whom do we send our registry info?
- Can I choose china from my 1st wedding?
Submit Your Own Etiquette Question
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- How do you say thanks for a check?
- Must thank-you cards be signed by bride and groom?
- When must the thank-yous be sent?
- When do we open and close the registry?
- Is it OK to register for wine?
- Is it OK to register for gifts for a second (or third) wedding?
- Can I register at local boutiques?
- Can we register for a mortgage?
- Can we return gifts?
- Can we ask my fiancé's guests not to give gifts?
- Does the maid of honor have to give us a gift?
- Can we ask people not to bring gifts to the reception?
- Can we register for gifts for a vow renewal?
- At which wedding-related events am I expected to give gifts?
- Do we need to wait until thank-you notes are sent to our guests before depositing their checks?
- What do I do if a wedding check from a guest bounces?
