Invitations Etiquette
- Question:
- My fiancé and I plan to elope to Jamaica. I've read that we're supposed to send out announcements, but I don't know who's supposed to get them or what they should say. Also, when do we mail them?
- Answer:
Your announcements, which are mailed the day of your ceremony (or in your case, upon your return), should be sent to everyone who would have been invited to the wedding had you not eloped. The wording is similar to what you'd print on an invitation, listing who, what, when and where. "Mr. and Mrs. Peter Blake Davis have the honor of announcing the marriage of their daughter Elizabeth Anne to Christopher Jason James on Sunday, the Tenth of August Two Thousand and Three Negril, Jamaica" If you and your fiancé want to issue the announcement yourselves, just change the first few lines: "Elizabeth Anne Davis and Christopher Jason James announce their marriage on Sunday, the Tenth of August Two Thousand and Three Negril, Jamaica."
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