Family, Friends & Guests Etiquette
- Question:
- If I invite someone to my shower or bachelorette party, do I have to invite her to my wedding?
- Answer:
Unless you are having a small "family only" wedding, you'd better believe it. Would you invite someone for cocktails and then tell them they can't stay for dinner? This is the same deal. Consider your shower or bachelorette party as just an extension of your wedding weekend. If your friend makes the A list for one of the parties, she needs to be invited to all of them. Showers and bachelorette parties are not opportunities to "pack 'em in" so that you can keep the guest count down on the expensive wedding day. Nothing will offend a friend more than being a part-time celebrator in your wedding festivities.
- This content originally appeared in Modern Bride magazine.
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- I want a large rehearsal dinner and my fiancé's parents don't. What can I do?
- How can I seat remarried parents so that everyone feels equally important?
- How can we prevent our friends from playing a practical joke on our wedding night?
- Can I tell my cousin to stop seeing my married bridesmaid?
- Should I invite my fiancé's ex-girlfriend?
- How can I get my grandfather to behave at the wedding?
- Do I have to send invitations to everyone I verbally invited to the wedding?
- Can kids be excluded on the invite?
- Which side of the aisle do guests sit on at a same-sex union?
- When should we give our parents their gifts?
- Who should propose a wedding toast?
- Should my in-laws have unlimited invites?
- Can I exclude my in-laws' pals?
- Do I have to invite distant relations?
- Can I exclude stepparents from my wedding?
- How can I uninvite a guest?
- I've been snubbed—what do I do?
- When must I send thank-you notes?
- Can I invite dad's parents, but not dad?
- How do we announce our two weddings?
- Must I invite my practical-joker cousin?
- Should I invite my ex-husband to the wedding?
- Does dad have to be my aisle escort?
- How do we handle uninvited guests?
- Must single guests get a date invite?
- Must shower guests get wedding invites?
- Should I invite a jailed relative?
- Should we invite a recently divorced couple?
- What should I do about forgotten invites?
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- How do we seat my divorced in-laws?
- Should we ditch a nervous toast-giver?
- Should I invite my fiancé's outcast aunt?
- How can I get his mother to back off?
- How do we let guests know what our Plan B is?
- Should I allow one person to bring a guest?
- Should I plan extra activities for out-of-town guests?
- Is a small reception, big ceremony OK?
- Should we let one couple bring a kid?
- Will we get divorced because our parents did?
- Do I have to call my fiancé's mother "mom"?
- How can I prevent my cousin from upstaging me at the wedding?
- How can I make sure that my fiancé's mom will be on time?
- How can I convince my fiancé's sister to accept me as his wife?
- Do I have to invite my cousin's boyfriend?
- How should I handle guests who RSVP with their kids when children weren't invited?
- How can I divvy up the guest list?
- Should I invite people who can't come?
- How should I handle a forgotten thank-you?
- Do I have to invite my five co-workers?
- Should I change my wedding date so that my grandfather can attend?
- Who should initate the get-together between our parents?
- How should we handle complaints about our Friday night wedding?
- Can I ask a friend to help things run smoothly on the wedding day?
- Must I invite my bad dad?
- Do I have to invite my co-workers?
- Can we ask our guests to give us cash gifts?
- How do you prioritize your wedding guest list?
- Should you mail a wedding gift?
- Should I invite my boss's boss?
- Should we allow my friend to bring her one-month-old to the wedding?
- Should I warn my divorced friend that her ex husband is bringing a date to the wedding?
