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All You Need to Know About Wedding Tipping

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What vendors are you supposed to tip? How much? And how, exactly, do you hand off the cash without feeling like a mobster? BRIDES magazine brings you a guide on whom to tip, how much, and when.

OFFICIANT: $75 to $100 for a clergy member. (It's a donation to the house of worship.) A civil employee, such as a judge or clerk, often can't accept a tip. The best man offers the tip after the ceremony.

CEREMONY MUSICIANS: $20 to $25 each, unless tips are included in a house of worship's rental fee. The best man offers the tips after the ceremony.

ALTAR BOYS AND GIRLS: $5 to $10 each. The best man offers the tips to the kids after the ceremony.

DELIVERY PEOPLE (flowers, rentals, cake): $5 to $25 each, depending on the time and toil. Whoever (Mom, planner) is supervising wedding-day deliveries offers the tips on the spot.

COAT-CHECK AND RESTROOM ATTENDANTS: $0.50 to $1 per guest. Post a sign that gratuities have been taken care of. The host (i.e., you or your parents) pays in advance, based on the number of guests.

VALETS OR PARKING ATTENDANT: $1 per car. Post a sign telling guests that gratuities have been taken care of. The host pays in advance, based on the number of guests.

HOTEL WEDDING COORDINATOR: $200 to $400. The host offers the tip at the reception's end.

WAITSTAFF: 15 to 20 percent of the total catering bill, to be split among the waiters, if a gratuity is not included in the contract. The host offers the tip at the reception's end.

BARTENDERS: 10 percent of the total liquor bill, to be split among the bar staff, if a gratuity is not included in the contract. The host offers the tip at the reception's end.

DJ OR BAND: $50 to $100 for a DJ, or $20 to $25 for each band member, if they work for an agency; no tip if they're self-employed. The host offers the tip at the reception's end.

PHOTOGRAPHER AND VIDEOGRAPHER: $50 to $100, if they're working for a studio; no tip if they're self-employed. The host offers the tip at the reception's end.

INDEPENDENT WEDDING PLANNER: None expected. But if your planner went out of her way, you can thank her with cash ($100 to $1,000, depending on your budget) or a gift, sent after the wedding.

LIMO OR BUS DRIVER:15 to 20 percent of the total bill, if a gratuity is not included in the contract. The host offers the tip after the final drop-off.

HAIRSTYLISTS AND MAKEUP ARTISTS: 15 to 20 percent of the total bill, if you go to a salon; at your discretion if they come to you.

—Barrie Gillies, BRIDES magazine

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7 Financial Tips for Newlyweds

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Financial issues are the #1 cause of marital friction. Therefore, learning how to talk about money early on could not only help you get a handle on debt but save your marriage. Here's are BRIDES magazine's tips:

1. Talk! Find out about any debt either one of you has, and figure out a plan to bring it down each month. Schedule a financial check-in with each other once a month to make sure you are on the same page and are meeting your goals.

2. Create a joint budget and a master financial plan for your mutual spending. Decide what you'll do with your wedding checks: which should be used for immediate needs, like a deposit on a rental apartment, a down payment on a car, or furniture for your new home; and which should stashed away in your savings.

3. Go through all your policies and accounts, and change the beneficiary designations if you want your new spouse to own these assets should something happen to you. Besides insurance policies, 401(k) plans, IRAs, and savings, also change the beneficiary on any bonds and CDs.

4. Set up an emergency-cash fund that would cover your living expenses for several months. You want to know you'll be secure for a minimum of three—and ideally six—months should one or both of you lose employment. Remember to put this money into an interest-yielding savings or money-market account.

5. Have a designated amount automatically deposited into your savings or money-market account every payday—ideally, 10 to 20 percent of your income before paying for essentials like rent, food, or even student loans. Automatic deposits are painless, because if you don't have the money in hand, you won't be tempted to spend it.

6. Discuss who'll pay the bills, and issues like how much each of you can spend without consulting the other. Do you need to tell him about every single shoe purchase? Not if you've discussed your monthly allotment. Purchasing a new Harley-Davidson...now, that's another story.

7. Once you have everything settled, it's time to invest in retirement funds like Roth IRAs and 401(k)s. Disability insurance is also a must, because it protects your income in case of sudden illness.

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