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THE GROOMS SPEAKS: The Bachelor Party: Nothing to Worry About


Josh Brentan

One of the things women ask me most often is "What really happens at a bachelor party?" Some women are curious; some are suspicious; and some, like the woman I heard about who cries every time she hears the phrase exotic dancers, are just downright crazy. So let's examine a few of the more popular female concerns and see if there is anything to be truly worried about:

1) Will his friends try to talk him out of getting married? Erica admitted she was mildly concerned about this, but I assured her that if they were going to try and talk me out of it, they would have done so long ago. Nobody discusses relationships at bachelor parties—we like to eat, drink, and make fun of each other. That's it. Actual worry scale (1 out of 5)

2) What if he goes MIA? He's probably learned his lesson from The Hangover, but if for some reason he schedules the bachelor party for the night before the wedding (not recommended), I'd be more concerned that he'll still be hung over when the ceremony begins. Responsible drinking and bachelor parties are mutually exclusive, and if he's in really bad shape, it could ruin the wedding. Actual worry scale (3 out of 5)

3) Will he cheat on me? If what you're really wondering is if he'll end up ogling women who are paid to take their clothes off, then yes, the chances are good. But getting a lap dance is not cheating. If you consider any "services" beyond that to be cheating, be assured that only a few guys tend to take advantage of the opportunity. Is your guy one of them? You probably know the answer to that. Actual worry scale (2 out of 5)

4) What if he comes home early? Seem like a strange thing to worry about? Think about it: What does it say about a man if he can't hack it for a night or weekend with his best friends? Actual worry scale (5 out of 5)

—Josh Brentan, The Groom With A View

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