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THE GROOM SPEAKS: Ask Him to Shower With You


Courtesy of Josh Brentan

I desperately wanted to avoid Erica's bridal shower. Twenty women in one room? Way too much estrogen for me. But I agreed to come for the last half hour...and, shockingly, I enjoyed myself. If your groom needs convincing, here are a few things that might help:

It's Good Practice—The shower is like a warm-up for your big day. Not only can you perfect your "thanks for coming" spiel, but it's also a good time to work on recognizing silent cues. This way, during the wedding, you can't get upset at him for thinking that you had an itchy nose when what you really wanted was some help getting away from his crazy aunt Tillie.

Sharing Is Caring—It's nice to be showered with love and attention, but not everyone likes to be the sole focus of an entire room. If that sounds like you, it's all the more reason to get your groom involved. Support is one of the best things spouses can offer each other—why wait to get started?

Real Men Register—Who would have thought that one day, men wouldn't just like to cook, they'd be responsible for picking out the cookware for the registry? That was my role, and it was great to be there to receive the gifts we'd both be using.

Lots of Food, Free Drinks—If he's still holding out, just remind him of this. No man will be able to resist.

—Josh Brentan, The Groom With A View

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