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THE GROOM SPEAKS: "Sit...Stay...Good Groom!"


Courtesy of Josh Brentan

When it comes to planning a wedding, who has time for patience? Here are a few tips to get your groom to do what you want, when you want. Remember, you didn't hear this from me...

What You Want From Him: To finish a task he was supposed to have done weeks ago. How to Get It: Try the ultimatum. If he's a clean freak, refuse to do dishes. If he's helpless, don't do his laundry. And if you really want to get medieval, you can always withhold sex. If he has any sense of humor, he'll get the job done by the end of the day.

What You Want From Him: To look at samples (clothing, linens, invitations, etc.).How to Get It: Try flattery. Tell him his opinion is important to you. Tell him you want him to feel like it's his wedding, too. If that doesn't work, you can always bribe him. A gift as simple as a burger and a beer will work wonders on the malleability of a man.

What You Want From Him: To spend money on something he doesn't think is necessary.How to Get It: Try the sob story. Say you understand that spending $1,000 on a makeup artist is a lot of money, but in the next breath remind him of the time in eighth grade when you didn't get invited to Marcy Greenstein's birthday party because she didn't think you weren't pretty enough. He'll know what you're up to, but he'll probably go along anyway.

What You Want From Him: To register for something he doesn't want. How to Get It: Try telling him how much better his life will be with that item in it. When we were at Bloomingdale's last weekend, Erica wanted to register for this peacock pitcher that, frankly, was heinous. But then she told me it would be perfect for making sangria and drinking it on our patio. Scanner, please!

What You Want From Him: To help you pick out bridesmaids' dresses. How to Get It: Let me put it this way: It's gonna take more than a burger and a beer. A lot more.

—Josh Brentan, The Groom With A View

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