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Courtesy of Josh Brentan

It's often said that guys want no part of wedding planning, but I am here to tell you that's just not true!'s kind of true. But there are some things we don't mind doing, and may even enjoy. It's a safe bet you can get your groom to take the lead, or at least share the duties, on the following tasks:

1) Food/cake tasting: I can't say it enough: MEN LOVE TO EAT! It doesn't matter if his taste buds are refined or raw, this is the part of planning he'll look forward to most. And yes, he may insist on having pigs in a blanket, but I say it's okay to relent on this one—they're a crowd pleaser.

2) Honeymoon planning: He'll relish this job because it gives him an opportunity to picture you wearing a bikini (or less) in various exotic locales. He'll do everything he can to turn those visions into reality, so once you decide on a destination, ask to be kept in the loop but trust him to do the rest.

3) Music: I recently met a couple in which the groom was lobbying for a hard-core punk band to play the reception. The bride appreciated his enthusiasm but understandably opted to do the music selection herself. Assuming your groom's taste is slightly more in tune with the rest of ours, he would probably be psyched to lead the charge on choosing the band (with your input, of course) or coming up with the playlists, and with better results.

4) After-party: There's no color coordination, no flowers, and no seating arrangement. In other words, it's impossible to screw up. Let him handle it—you have more important, girly things to do.

—Josh Brentan, The Groom With A View

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