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THE GROOM SPEAKS: What He Really Means When He Says...


Courtesy of Josh Brentan

Good communication is always important, but never more so than when you're planning a wedding. Unfortunately, some of us men don't always say what we mean. So in an effort to help you better understand us, here's a handy translation guide to a few phrases you're sure to be hearing:

"I don't care." What he's trying to tell you is that you can do whatever you want, as long as it's something he agrees with. For example, if he tells you he doesn't care about the place cards but you come home and they're pink? Believe me, he's going to care.

"Relax, everything's gonna be OK." He might say it in a soothing voice, but his motives are purely selfish. It's actually a male mantra that means "I was feeling nice and relaxed a moment ago, and I pray you'll let me feel that way again real soon."

"That's fine." He's just being polite. What he really wants to say is, "Stop asking me so many questions! Is it possible to not talk about the wedding for five minutes?"

"No." The good news is that this time he actually means it. But it's often only temporary—so find a new way to ask in a couple of days and you might just get the answer you're looking for.

"Whatever you think is best." This is his way of letting you know he appreciates the hours you spent picking out, say, table linens, while simultaneously telling you he has absolutely no interest in discussing it for any longer than two minutes. (See "I don't care," above).

—Josh Brentan, The Groom With A View

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