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Notable Nora Ephron Quotes
Related to Marriage

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Without Nora Ephron there would be no When Harry Met Sally... and without When Harry Met Sally... we would be without dozens, perhaps hundreds, of notable quotes that have provided insight, optimism, honesty and most of all, comic relief to couples everywhere. Here, in memory of the great American filmmaker, director, and screenwriter, who passed away yesterday, we round up a few of our favorite quotes from Ephron's vast catalogue of film credits, which include Sleepless in Seattle, You've Got Mail, Julie and Julia and of course, When Harry Met Sally...


"You are the butter to my bread, you are the breath to my life."
Julie & Julia

"I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."
When Harry Met Sally

"When you think you are attracted to someone it's just your subconscious attracted to their subconscious...subconsciously."
Sleepless in Seattle

"Don't you love New York in the fall? It makes me wanna buy school supplies. I would send you a bouquet of newly-sharpened pencils if I knew your name and address. On the other hand, this not knowing has its charms."
You've Got Mail

"What I'm saying is—and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form—is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way."
When Harry Met Sally

"What if this man is my destiny and I never meet him?"
Sleepless in Seattle

"I turn on my computer. I wait impatiently as it connects. I go online, and my breath catches in my chest until I hear three little words: You've got mail. I hear nothing. Not even a sound on the streets of New York, just the beating of my own heart. I have mail. From you."
You've Got Mail

"It is so nice when you can sit with someone and not have to talk."
When Harry Met Sally

"You and I are vaches enragees."
Julie & Julia

"He asked me to take a midnight walk on the steel pier...then he held my hand. At one point I looked down and I couldn't tell which fingers were his and which were mine...and I knew...you know...magic! It was magic."
Sleepless in Seattle

"I've been doing a lot of thinking, and the thing is, I love you."
When Harry Met Sally

"I knew it the first time I saw her. It was like coming home, only to no home I'd ever known. I was just taking her hand to help her out of a car and I knew. It was...magic."
Sleepless in Seattle

"A Sheldon can do your income taxes, if you need a root canal, Sheldon's your man... but humpin' and pumpin' is not Sheldon's strong suit. It's the name."
When Harry Met Sally

And one final quote from the woman herself. "My first wedding dress...it was so darling. It was a little white dress with a collar, right at the height of the whole minidress period. It came to there [she drew a line high above her knees] and it had little scallops around the bottom and it was really slim."

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—Anne-Marie Scali

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"The Five-Year Engagement": Emily Blunt & Leesa Evans Take Us Inside the Wedding Movie of the Year

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It's the wedding-movie story you've worshiped a thousand times: Couple falls in love. Couple screws it up. Couple works it out. But unlike the protagonists of "My Big Fat Greek Wedding," "27 Dresses," or "Father of the Bride," Jason Segel's aspiring chef, Tom, and Emily Blunt's social psychologist, Violet, veer off the standard rom-com route in "The Five-Year Engagement" for a surprisingly realistic journey down the aisle.

"We tried to show a modern couple," Blunt says of Violet and Tom, who pack up their sunny San Fransico life for Violet's post-grad work in snowy Michigan. "It's the girl who has a career and the boy who has to follow and adjust. Tom's the one at home feeling a bit lost." At the heart of Segel's script, which he co-wrote with Nicholas Stoller, is an awareness that the years surrounding a wedding can be messy and that engaged couples aren't always eager to use the cookie cutter. "I think it's actually what the world is like," Blunt says. "My own mother said to my dad, 'When are you going to ask me to marry you?' It doesn't always have to be that the guy is down on one knee."

(In further proof that no one really fits the mold, Blunt adds: "My cousin Dominic just got married to a girl whose name is Shaunda, and my mom called to tell me the ceremony was a disaster. The priest kept calling her Ronda and kept forgetting the lines and there were huge pauses. Mum was like, 'He was obviously drunk.'")

Reflective of real-world couples though they may be, somewhere amid Violet and Tom's move—and with little thanks to Rhys Ifans' doting professor, Winton—they lose hold of the thread that stitched their relationship together. You can imagine how that unravels their wedding plans. "If you're in a relationship, you have to be forever generous," says Blunt, who married The Office actor John Krasinski at George Clooney's Lake Como villa in 2010. "You have to empower each other, even if that means spending time apart or making sacrifices in other ways. I think both people need some purpose, some identity, because you don't want to end up defining yourself by your association."

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Self-empowerment also fueled costume designer Leesa Evans, whose credits include "Bridesmaids" and "Forgetting Sarah Marshall," when creating looks for the film's climactic wedding scene. (Yes, Tom and Violet do get married, but the story of how is best left in the theater.) "I always try to find that place in each person where they feel incredibly comfortable," Evans says. "You know how it is when you put on a great pair of jeans and suddenly you don't feel self-conscious. I start with that core confidence."

In Blunt's case, that meant landing a wedding gown with a natural elegance that also matched Violet's feminine, but not girly, style. Recalling the over-the-top aesthetic of John Galliano and Alexander McQueen, Evans designed the comedically couture gown Maya Rudolph wears in "Bridesmaids," but with "The Five-Year Engagement," the wedding dress found her—at, of all places, designer discount chain Loehmanns. "They'd just gotten in an enormous shipment of Valentino samples," Evans remembers. "I felt like I'd hit the jackpot." She also considered a one-shoulder, pale green lace sheath by Stella McCartney, "but in the end we went with the Valentino because it felt effortless."

Evans advises non-movie brides to also follow a sense of ease when selecting a wedding gown. "It's about shape and the things that make you feel beautiful, whether it's a princess dress, a bias-cut sheath or a miniskirt," she says. "If you feel silly, you'll know, and if you feel sexy, you'll know. It's about listening to yourself."

Blunt, for one, knew exactly how she felt donning Valentino's flowy, empire-waisted gown to culminate Violet and Tom's half-decade-long engagement: "Leesa wanted to create something very singular for Violet. The wedding dress was an amazing moment—I loved it."

—Phillip B. Crook

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Ellen DeGeneres Predicts
Bridesmaids for the Oscars Win!

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Writing as a columnist for The Huffington Post, Ellen DeGeneres staked her case for this year's Original Screenplay Oscar nominee: Bridesmaids. "It's so relatable," she says. "I don't care who you are—male or female, young or old, Democrat or Republican—we've all gotten kicked off a plane for being drunk."

Joking aside, the talk show host goes on to point out that Annie Mumolo and Kristen Wiig defied expectations with their unruly story about a group of women thrown together in the trenches (and occasional trench warfare) of bridesmaidom—an answer, intentional or not, to Hollywood's bachelor-rumpus, The Hangover.

"They said a comedy with an all-female lead cast couldn't be successful," DeGeneres writes, "but they were wrong. The movie just broke the record as the most downloaded movie-on-demand ever. See? People aren't just renting it—they're demanding it.

"It's amazing," she continues, that Melissa McCarthy earned the film a second Oscars nod as a Best Supporting Actress nominee, "considering the Academy rarely recognizes comedies at all." (See our editors' pick for McCarthy's award-worthy gown.) "I don't know why comedies don't get more attention at the Oscars. There are so many great actors who have given amazing performances and have never been nominated... like Steve Martin, or Steve Carell, or Steve Guttenberg. I can't think of anyone whose name isn't Steve right now, but I'm sure there are some."

And Steve Buscemi. Let's not forget his pre-Boardwalk Empire role in 1998's Armageddon, because that movie was hah-larious, though maybe not in the Oscar-worthy way. "Anyway," DeGeneres concludes, "congratulations Bridesmaids, and good luck at the Oscars!" Make that from both of us.

See Glee's take on the movie's famous poster, and read behind-the-scenes details about the costumes from designer Leesa Evans.

—Phillip B. Crook

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Glee-Maids:
A Glee Wedding Sneak Peek?

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Photo: Via Lea Michele

Will Rachel marry Finn on tonight's episode of Glee, just one week after she accepted her high school sweetheart's proposal? That's what Lea Michele has the world wondering after the Glee actress tweeted this photo, which the cast created as a nod to the Oscar-nominated funny girls of Bridesmaids. Although Michele's tweet called tonight's third-season installment a "very memorable episode," we don't yet know if that's due to Rachel and Finn's trip down the aisle or the club's big win at Regionals. Or—dare we think it—both?

—Phillip B. Crook

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The Vow Sets New Valentine's Day Box Office Record

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Outperforming even 2010's celebrity-packed Valentine's Day, Channing Tatum and Rachel McAdams set a Valentine's Day box office record this year, bringing in $11.6 million for Tuesday's showing of The Vow.

Added to the $41.2 million the film earned upon opening last weekend, that brings The Vow's total box office draw so far to $56.2 million. Up against a based-on-true-events love story starring two of the hottest actors in Hollywood, the record's previous holder, 2005's Hitch, never stood a chance with a measly $7.5 million.

Find out how to get Rachel McAdam's pink wedding dress in The Vow and her distinctive leaf-inspired ring. And, for the true McAdams fans out there, check out our editors' picks for matching the star's bright pink red carpet lips.

—Phillip B. Crook

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Get the Look: Rachel McAdams' Wedding Dress in The Vow

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Unlike conventionally classic movie brides, Rachel McAdams' character dons a short, pink wedding dress to marry Channing Tatum in The Vow, in theaters today. The dress—a vintage find customized by the costume designer—is so delightfully spontaneous, so... so... rock-star bride meets Pretty in Pink meets Prom Queen 1994. While the look is understandably not for everyone, those of you with an extra dose of Molly Ringwald should check out these three similar dresses below from bridal and bridesmaid designers.

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Each of these dresses by Monique Lhuillier (left), Alfred Angelo (center), and Alvina Valenta (right) evoke the girlish, could-care-less-what-you-think spirit of McAdams' wedding dress. Monique Lhuillier's version softens the look with pale chiffon and a bow at the waist, while Alfred Angelo's take mimics the neckline with a ruched bust and emphasized waist. The Alvina Valenta dress, on the other hand, interprets McAdams' look into a white satin bodice with a flouncy pink tulle overlay skirt.

Want more "Get the Look" goodness from The Vow? Find out about the distinctive Parade Designs ring Rachel McAdams wears in the movie.

—Phillip B. Crook

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Behind the Bridesmaids Costumes

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The New York Times' awards season blog, Carpetbagger, featured a post in the lead-up to the Oscars on Leesa Evans, the costume designer for Bridesmaids. Although the Academy's costuming nods typically go to elaborate period pieces, the Times points out that contemporary films can be just as challenging to clothe as, say, 2007's Oscar winner, Marie Antoinette.

"As a designer, I start with who the actress is, combined with who the character is, and find something that feels authentic to both of those people," Evans said of her approach. For co-writer and female lead Kristen Wiig, that meant looking for quirky, style-on-a-budget pieces from retailers like Urban Outfitters and Forever 21.

Rose Byrne (who also starred in Marie Antoinette, by the way) was another matter. Both the actress and her character were inclined to a high-fashion aesthetic. "She wears it well, so it was easy and fun," Evans explained. "We almost had a problem deciding which of the many amazing outfits to use because we had so much."

Best Supporting Actress nominee Melissa McCarthy donned the film's most, uh, distinctive costumes for her pearl-necklace-and-golf-shirt-wearing character, Megan. And it was Megan, Evans decided, who would opt for the most formal bridesmaid dress during the movie's bridal salon scene. "We knew that there was going to be a lot of white and also a lot of pink," Evans said, describing the set. "Pink is a caricature of what you would expect a bridesmaid's dress to be, so we wanted to play with that a little bit."

But that caricature was nothing compared to the one-sleeved, ruffles-gone-wild wedding gown Evans designed for Maya Rudolph's character. Inspired by outlandish couture creations from the Paris runways, Evans expanded on ideas by Alexander McQueen and Elie Saab, creating "a comedic twist on it, so that it was just laughable," she said.

And laugh we did.

—Phillip B. Crook

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Get the Look: Rachel McAdam's Wedding Ring in The Vow

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Photo: Courtesy of Columbia Pictures

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In The Vow, Rachel McAdams portrays a woman struggling to reclaim her life after a car accident and the coma that followed erase her memory—including any recognition of her husband, played by Channing Tatum. Besides the obvious "How could anyone forget marrying Channing Tatum?!," we wonder if one good look at her wedding band would jog McAdams' memory.

The distinctive ring by Parade Designs, $700, features a loop of 18K yellow gold shaped into the company's signature, nature-inspired Lyria Leaf pattern, also available as earrings in silver and gold. Look for the ring (and any plot points it may inspire) when The Vow hits theaters Feb. 10. —Phillip B. Crook

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Watch: The Loving Story Trailer

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Since the dawn of the fight for same-sex marriage rights, supporters have pointed to "Loving v. Virgina" as a direct example of America's history with marriage discrimination. The 1967 Supreme Court case legalized interracial marriage by overturning a Caroline County, Virginia judge's ruling that prohibited the union of Richard Perry Loving and Mildred Loving. Now, 45 years later and at the height of the LGBT civil rights debate, the Lovings' journey takes on a new perspective in director Nancy Buirski's HBO documentary, "The Loving Story," airing on February 14—un-coincidentally, Valentine's Day during Black History Month.

As a white man and a woman of Africa-American and Native-American descent, the Lovings violated their state's Racial Integrity Act of 1924, even though they married across state lines in Washington, D.C., where interracial marriage was legal. The Lovings' one-year jail sentence was suspended on the condition that they not return to Virginia for 25 years, which they fought down with the help of attorney Bernard Cohen, a volunteer with the American Civil Liberties Union.

"The Lovings have the right to go to sleep at night knowing that if should they not wake in the morning, their children would have the right to inherit from them," Cohen argued in the case. "They have the right to be secure in knowing that, if they go to sleep and do not wake in the morning, that one of them, a survivor of them, has the right to Social Security benefits. All of these are denied to them, and they will not be denied to them if the whole anti-miscegenistic scheme of Virginia... [is] found unconstitutional."

Coinciding with the release of The Loving Story, photographer Grey Villet's photo essay about the couple—originally shot for LIFE magazine—is on display at the International Center of Photography in New York City through May 6. —Phillip B. Crook

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Watch: The Trailer for The Five-Year Engagement


If you loved Bridesmaids (and all of us staffers did!), then get ready for The Five-Year Engagement—a new wedding comedy that looks just as hilarious. Jason Segel and Emily Blunt play an engaged couple who can't quite pin down a wedding date, much to the dismay of their friends and family. And once the bride-to-be accepts a job offer that relocates the pair to Michigan, the wedding-planning process comes to a screeching halt and (we're guessing) hilarity ensues. The Five-Year Engagement, written by Segel and Nicholas Stoller (Get Him to the Greek) and produced by Judd Apatow (Bridesmaids, Knocked Up), hits theaters April 27th, so mark your calendars. Fingers crossed it's on par with Bridesmaids and that this trend of genuinely funny chick flicks continues.—Allison Bean

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Behind-the-Scenes Details From the Breaking Dawn Wedding

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Bella and Edward finally say "I do" in The Twilight Saga: Breaking Dawn Part 1, which hits theaters today. Production designer Richard Sherman spills secrets from the set:

The inspiration was Shakespearean.
We didn't want to go the vampire route—you know, red, dripping chandeliers. So we ended up with a "Midsummer Night's Dream" feel. I went to Stephenie Meyer with the idea and she said, "Great."

It's an at-home wedding.
We filmed the outdoor scenes in Vancouver. This is the first time we actually go in the Cullen family's backyard. They live in a forest with a river going through the back. We found the perfect location for it.

The earth is their aisle runner.
There's no real aisle. It's green moss with itty-bitty white flowers that are sprouting up to create a path.

The pews are very Pacific Northwest.
The seating is formed from twigs. They're covered in moss, and ferns are growing up through them. It's magical.

The ceremony's focal point is blooming.
Bella and Edward get married under a canopy of wisteria branches. The whole area looks as if it's raining white flowers.

The reception is totally forest-chic.
The tablecloths are made of silk-organza leaves, so when you walk by, they just flutter. The silverware looks like it's made of little branches and twigs, and the chairs are all covered in leaves.

The honeymoon is, um, active.
Bella and Edward arrive in Rio and dance in the streets in Lapa. Then they go to Isla Esme, where they visit waterfalls, go swimming, and explore the rainforest. Then [spoiler alert!] suddenly, she's pregnant and showing in a very short amount of time.

The bed isn't vampire-proof.
Edward is very strong, so we had to make a bunch of beds. We broke them very artistically.

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Bella's Breaking Dawn Wedding Dress to Hit Stores

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Carolina Herrera designed the wedding dress Kristen Stewart dons as Bella Swan in Breaking Dawn Part 1, coming to theaters Nov. 18, but Alfred Angelo has been tapped to manufacture the gown worldwide. In the book, Bella's dress is described as a turn-of-the-century design, incorporating modern details into the early-1900s silhouette. How Herrera interpreted that description has been the source of much speculation (particularly after the 15-second movie teaser hinted at the outcome), but perhaps even more noteworthy will be how the Alfred Angelo team translates that gown into a mass-market option. The Twilight Bridal by Alfred Angelo dress will price within the line's usual range ($600-$2,500) and will be available in sizes 0 to 30. Look for the gown to hit stores in late November. —Phillip B. Crook

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A Very Vampire Wedding

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I haven't read a single Twilight book, and I only saw 30-ish minutes of the first movie (on an airplane at that), so, granted, I'm no authority on the vampire phenomenon. But I'm going to assume that some of you are excited for Part 1 of Breaking Dawn to hit theaters on November 18. And while you wait, MTV has decided to tease you, first with this 15-second trailer of Bella and Edward's wedding, and then on Sunday with an exclusive first look airing during the MTV Movie Awards.

Here's what we know so far about the vampy wedding: The couple weds in a forest ceremony under a flower-covered canopy; Bella wears a long-sleeved gown, a braided updo, and an ornate comb to hold in her veil; she carries an all-white bouquet; Edward wears a white-tie tux with tails; and...the whole thing took several days to film. Actress Elizabeth Reaser said of the shoot, "It was really magical, and you know vampires aren't supposed to cry, and that created a real obstacle for all of us vampires." Well, all I know is that crying is pretty standard at mortal weddings. Bloodsucking is not. —Phillip B. Crook

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Advice from the Cast of Bridesmaids

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We asked the stars of Judd Apatow's new flick to share what they learned while filming. Want more? Find bonus tips from Melissa McCarthy.

5 Tips on Being a Bridesmaid

1) Do not offer any input on the bridesmaids' dresses unless you are asked. And if you are asked, anything that the bride wants is what you want. Got it? It's just one day—and besides, in certain light, a peach-chartreuse combo is gorgeous.

2) Be sure you look good on the big day—but not too good. I'm not kidding. You have to put in the time and effort for the wedding photos, but you should not look better than the bride, babe! It's her day.

3) If you start to get the feeling that your bride might be asking you to go a tad beyond the call of duty, be really bad at those tasks. I swear, she won't ask you to do them anymore. Use this trick sparingly. You do have to do some work, slacker.

4) Do not use the bridesmaid toast as an opportunity to showcase your own talents. It should be about the bride and the groom. Feel free to tell stories about how you and the bride met, funny times that you have had together, etc. Just be sure she emerges as the heroine in every story, not you.

5) Please be sure to tell the bride she's beautiful. This is one of the most important days in her life. And boy, does she look fantastic.

—Ellie Kemper, Bridesmaids Movie

5 Tips on Being a Bride

1) Be careful in that dress. Wedding gowns are heavy, and you may require the help of others to go to the bathroom. I've also learned it's probably not a good idea to run out into traffic while wearing one.

2) Don't be a bridezilla. [My character,] Lillian, is a "good" bride. She's the cool girl you want to laugh with who will also be there when your life falls apart. You can see by her diverse choice in bridesmaids that she's the kind of person who brings good people together.

3) Give your bridesmaids some input on what they'll wear. I like the idea of going to see the dresses together, not only because it's fun and gets the wedding train moving, but because everyone needs to try things on. We all have different bodies, y'all. I think the ideal situation is to pick a color and have everyone wear a dress that's appropriate for her body type.

4) Pick a dress your girls can wear after the wedding day. Let's be honest: bridesmaids' dresses are never cheap, so if you're paying for it, you'd like to be able to wear it again.

5) Eat something. If I had to give brides one piece of advice, it would be to have a good breakfast! It's gonna be a looong day.

—Maya Rudolph, Bridesmaids Movie

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