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Wedding ceremony traditions are tricky to navigate. What do you do during the vows if your given first name is just—well, old-fashioned? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer all your questions in our daily post.

I haven't gone by my given first name, Gwendolyn, since I was a child. Can our minister use my nickname, "Lynnie," during the vows?

Absolutely—during one of life's most profound moments, there's no need to have to respond to a name that grates on your ears. The official marriage license, like all your legal documents, will read "Gwendolyn"; put it in a safe place where you won't have to see it for a few decades.

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Weddings present all sorts of tricky questions about family dynamics and ceremony traditions. If your parents are widowed or divorced, you're likely faced with the difficult task of deciding where to seat them, and other family members, during your wedding ceremony to assure that everyone is happy and comfortable. That's why our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer all your questions in our daily post.

My mom's a widow—can her sisters sit with her in the front row?

Absolutely. There's no hard-and-fast rule that decrees the front row is a parents-only zone. When deciding prime wedding ceremony seating, your guidelines should be good judgment and family dynamics.

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We're not suggesting that all wedding ceremonies are snoozefests...No, not at all. It's just that sometimes, a couple can get so caught up in planning the wedding reception, they forget to personalize the oh-so important pre-reception part. If that's the case, you'll want to take note of these 25 tips we put together aimed at making your ceremony every bit as exciting as what follows. From pre-wedding cocktails to Mad Lib vows, each of these quirky ideas are yours for the taking.

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Wedding ceremony traditions—whether Christian, Jewish, or not religious at all—can be difficult to navigate. That's why our experts are here to help answer your toughest questions in our daily etiquette post.

We're not Jewish, but we love the significance and look of a chuppah. Can we still use one at the ceremony?

Just call it a canopy instead of a chuppah, and of course you can have one. Wedding canopies are especially popular for outdoor wedding ceremonies, where they can help define the altar area. According to Jewish wedding custom, four attendants hold or stand by the poles, and a prayer shawl is draped over the top. Obviously, you'd omit these specific elements, but feel free to get creative with other details and embellishments.

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Your wedding ceremony is one of the most meaningful parts of your wedding day—saying vows in front of loved ones, standing at the altar with your brand-new husband and bridal party, and you still have your whole reception ahead of you! It's not always runners and roses, though, so we asked our wedding etiquette experts for advice on questions like in what order do the kids in the bridal party walk down the aisle and how do you keep from crying.

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One of the toughest parts of wedding planning is deciding which guests to invite to your ceremony and reception—and who to leave off your list. In our daily etiquette post, our experts help brides-to-be answer questions about guests lists and more.

We'd like to have a small ceremony but a big reception. Is that OK?

Your wedding ceremony guest list can certainly be pared down to a few key players. However, before you make the decision to keep things intimate, ask yourselves this: "Will we look back and regret the fact that everyone we love didn't get to see us seal the deal?" If you don't think so, then go for the smaller ceremony. It's important to do what makes the two of you comfortable and happy.

However, it's inevitable that your decision will make some other people unhappy. Here's how to cushion the blow: Have your ceremony videotaped and set up a TV at the reception so guests can catch the highlights. Also, ask the DJ or band leader to announce all the "firsts" at your wedding reception (your first toast, meal, dance and bite of cake as hubby and wife). By making a big to-do about these first moments, people will really feel like they are a part of your wedding day (without needing to see the first kiss). Bonus tip: Your wedding invitations should make it clear that the recipient is invited to the reception only. (For example, "You are cordially invited to the reception celebrating the marriage of..."). Otherwise you'll have a room full of people scratching their heads and wondering what happened to the "I dos."

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Wedding ceremony traditions, such as deciding whether your father should walk you down the aisle, are tricky to navigate. In our daily etiquette post, our experts help brides-to-be answer the toughest questions.

I'd like to have both my father and my stepfather give me away, since I'm close to each of them. Do I just walk between them down the aisle?

This scenario can work, but we also like the idea of having one of the men (say, your step-dad) begin the walk with you, while your father waits at the end of a row about halfway down. They switch places (have your step-dad slip into his proper seat before the wedding ceremony starts), and Dad finishes the walk up to your fiancé.

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Wedding ceremony traditions, such as seating and receiving lines, are tricky to navigate. In our daily etiquette post, our experts help brides-to-be answer the toughest questions.

My divorced parents are both remarried. How do I work the ceremony seating and the receiving line?

If everyone's comfortable with it, your mother and father can sit in the first row with their respective spouses. But if they need a little space between them, put Mom in the first row with her hubby, and your dad and his wife in the second row. If relations between the two parents are particularly tense, put Mom in the front row, some of her close relatives in the second (your grandparents, for example) and your father and his wife in the third. The purpose of a receiving line is to be gracious hosts and hostesses, and meet and greet your guests. Having a large group of VIPs means that the receiving line drags on, keeping everyone standing—which is not exactly gracious entertaining. So keep the line lean. Some couples, even those with intact families, choose to have just the mothers of the bride and groom in line; fathers and stepparents mingle with the crowd, greeting guests as they go.

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When you're planning your wedding, you're sure to have a lot of questions about finding the right wedding gown, bridal veil, bridesmaid dresses, mother-of-the bride attire, and more. That's why our etiquette experts are here to answer all of your fashion-related questions.

I would love to wear a cathedral-length veil for my wedding, but does it really have to be carried by pages? Can't I simply let it trail behind me?

You don't need a crew to carry your veil. Just be sure to have someone—your maid of honor, dad, or wedding consultant—arrange it behind you before you head down the aisle. To ensure that your veil doesn't get dirty, have an aisle runner put in place before the processional.

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Have a question about any part of the wedding planning process—including those tricky ones like how to incorporate family heirlooms, how to keep yourself from crying at your wedding (hint: don't), and whether to invite kids? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to help.

What's a proper way to honor my late grandmother at the wedding?

One idea is to place a vase of her favorite flowers at the altar, with a line explaining its significance in your wedding program. Light a candle in her memory or have your officiant say a few words about how much she meant to you. If you'd rather pay tribute at the reception, play her favorite song and invite guests onto the dance floor. Just don't overdo these gestures—this is a day to celebrate, not to mourn.

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Have a question about ceremony traditions—or any other part of the wedding planning process? Etiquette expert Anna Post, the great-great-granddaughter of Emily Post, has the answers to all your wedding-etiquette questions.

Which side of the aisle do guests sit on at a same-sex union?

Traditionally, guests of the bride would sit on the left side of the aisle (when facing the front of the venue) and guests of the groom would be seated on the right. However, at weddings with a very uneven guest list where one side would have considerably more people, ushers might be instructed to seat guests evenly on both sides, regardless of who's "guest" they are. This would keep the seating balanced and not draw attention away from the main event: the wedding ceremony taking place.

There is no way to assign sides when there are two brides or two grooms—so same-sex couples are free to assign guests a side arbitrarily if they would like (Sarah's guests on the left and Jennifer's on the right), or they might choose not to assign sides at all, and instead have their guests mix evenly. If a couple does choose to seat the guests according to which member of the couple they know better, this should not be read as a sign that one member of the couple is now playing the role of bride and the other of groom—same-sex couples should simply be themselves, and not be forced into any roles they don't choose to assume. The beauty of this question to me is that, just like a heterosexual couple, same-sex couples should feel free to use tradition when it is meaningful and relevant to them, and to abandon or recreate it when it makes sense for their unique situation.

—Anna Post, The Emily Post Institute

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Wedding ceremony traditions are tricky to navigate. In our daily etiquette post, our experts help brides-to-be answer the toughest questions.

We're worried a receiving line will eat into our reception time. What should we do?

For starters, you can keep the receiving line short and sweet—just you and your hubby. By excusing all other family and wedding-party members, you allow guests to work the line more quickly. If you're still concerned that a traditional receiving line will be too time-consuming, here are some other options: You and your husband could re-enter the ceremony site immediately after exchanging vows and personally release each pew or row of guests. This provides a great opportunity to quickly greet everyone before the reception starts. You might also join arms with your spouse at the reception and pop by each table for a quick hello. For an extra-personal touch, hand-deliver your wedding favors as you make your rounds—it's a perfect way to catch everyone. Just make sure to keep moving and don't get held up at one table for too long. Otherwise, your reception will turn into one long receiving line, the exact thing you were trying to avoid.

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Wedding ceremony traditions are tricky to navigate. Our experts weigh in on ceremony attendants, and more, in our daily wedding etiquette post.

May our dog participate in the wedding ceremony?

Absolutely! (That is, unless there are objections from your officiant, there are ceremony-site restrictions, or your pup answers to the name of Cujo.) That said, there are a few things to consider. First, how does Fido react to large crowds? If he feels the need to speak his mind, you run the risk of a noisy processional. Aside from barking, does he show his excitement in other ways? If your answer involves super-absorbent paper towels, maybe he should skip the show and wait for the video. And finally, how long is your ceremony? Will he be able to sit through it quietly? If none of the above presents a problem, then go for it. Have an attendant escort him up the aisle, then have a previously designated leash-holder take over for the duration of the ceremony. Bonus tip: If your dog attends your wedding, make sure the caterer provides him with some special treats at the reception. You don't want Fido feeling left out when you cut the cake!

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I found my biological father two and a half years ago, and I'm not on good terms with my mom and stepdad. Can I ask him to walk me down the aisle even though he wasn't a part of my life growing up? —Julie D. of Lancaster, Pa., via email

Dear Julie,

It is your wedding, and you should be escorted down the aisle by whomever you want. (Drew Barrymore asked her husband's dad to do the honors.) If your heart is set on your biological father, by all means extend the offer. But if you simply want to avoid walking with your mother or stepfather, you may want to consider other, less complicated options: a brother, a sister, a mentor, the groom—or no one at all. Whatever you decide, inform your mother and stepfather of the plan well ahead of time to prevent any surprise drama at your wedding rehearsal.

—Lisa Birnbach

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Wedding traditions are tricky to navigate. Our experts weigh in on religious services, and more, in our daily wedding etiquette post.

What's the rule—does a bridesmaid who's Jewish have to go through the motions of our Christian service?

Her participation depends on her beliefs and the dogma of your religion. She can kneel or stand when the rest of the congregation does, and should answer "I will" or "I do" when the officiant asks if those assembled will support you and your fiancé. However, she doesn't have to say any prayers or sing hymns if she'd prefer not to. As for Communion, different beliefs have different rules. Often, people who are not receiving Communion can still approach the altar and by crossing their arms over their chest, signify that they would like a blessing, rather than the bread and wine. Talk to your officiant about the convention in your house of worship, and tell your bridesmaid. It's also a good idea to print the information in your wedding program so that guests who belong to different religions or denominations will know what their options are. Each person can then decide for herself what will make her feel most comfortable.

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