Do Two Grooms Need to Wear Matching Attire?

Etiquette, Gay Marriage, Grooms
two grooms wedding attire

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Choosing your wedding day attire is an opportunity to both embody the style and dress code you've chosen for your wedding and also express your personality, and a same-sex wedding is no exception! Whether it's two brides or two grooms, you should walk down the aisle in something that makes you feel your best. While two brides wouldn't expect to wear the same outfit for their wedding, should two grooms wear the same suit or tux, or should they opt to each wear something that speaks to their personality? Here are some tips from our experts.

Good news! There is no rule requiring that two grooms need to match as they walk down the aisle. You should, however, consider keeping your attire coordinated — both to fit your wedding's dress code and to match with the style or theme of your celebration. For example, if you're having a black tie wedding, you might opt to wear tuxedos with different finishes (such as a peak vs. a shawl collar lapel, or satin vs. matte details) or in different hues, with one in a dark navy tuxedo and the other in black or slate gray. You could choose to accent your looks with creative bow ties, or one could don a straight tie instead.

For a more casual wedding, you also have similar options. Whether it's suits in different shades or cuts, the addition of a coordinated vest, or a colorful tie, embrace the opportunity to express your style and personality while still making sure you both fit in with your wedding's dress code and theme (and stand out amongst the guests!).

If you do choose to wear outfits that match more closely, consider shopping at the same store and shopping together. Standing side-by-side in the dressing room in the same suit or tux, you'll get a pretty good idea of whether it's a look you love or if the matchy-matchy feels like it's too much. Shopping in the same store and looking at attire from the same brand will also ensure that your suits are the exact same shade of gray or black, versus trying to match fabrics across brands and designers.

See More: 5 Ways to Reinvent the Traditional Tux

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