The 3 Questions to Ask Before You Play Matchmaker at Your Own Wedding


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Weddings are a celebration of love, and every once in a while, they're the birthplace of a new love, too. Chances are you know at least one couple who met at a wedding, whether their romance was lasting or just a short fling. But finding love isn't the question. The real question is whether you, the bride, are allowed to intentionally play a role in the match-making. Here's what our experts have to say about whether or not you can set people up at your wedding.

There's something so fun about playing matchmaker. If you know two people who would be perfect for one another, it's hard to resist the urge to make an introduction! And on a day that's all about love, that temptation is even stronger. However, before you go ahead and set up the maid of honor and the best man, there are a few things to keep in mind:

Are They Open to Meeting Someone?
If you've ever been set up yourself, you know that sometimes it's welcome, and sometimes it's the last thing on your mind. And everyone has been single once, so you know that there are times when you really are focusing more on your career or education than on finding your soulmate. Of course, there are also times when you wish Prince Charming would show up, already! So before you start scheming, check with the friends in question to see if they're both open to an introduction.

Are They Up to the Scrutiny?
Even if you keep it a secret, there's a really good chance that other friends and guests will notice that Adam and Olivia are talking to each other a lot more than most new acquaintances usually do, and word will spread that there might be a romance blooming. Make sure that both parties involved are both open to having their first date at your wedding and also having every single other person around them know what's happening.

Will You Care if it Doesn't Work Out?
Think about how many first dates you had before your last first date with your hubby-to-be. Not every date turns into a lifelong romance, and your wedding is no exception. If you really want your best friend and his best friend to meet, and think they might really have a chance, consider setting them up on a non-wedding blind date. Sure, some of the pressure is still there, but without an audience, they can have a real date instead of wondering when the cake will be cut. And if you're going to be upset that it wasn't true love after all, it won't mar your wedding memories. Though if you're setting them up just for the sake of it, but don't think there's a real chance, you should probably scrap the whole plan.

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