What Real Women WISH They'd Known Before Getting Engaged

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You may know a lot when it comes to wedding planning and marriage. But there may be a few things that still take you by surprise, as these four women can attest. Here, they share what they wished they'd known before they said "yes."

I wish I'd known: Marriage doesn't fix your problems.
Says Jennie, "I wish I had known that getting married will not fix the problems in your relationship. If you're having problems before the wedding, don't assume that they are caused by wedding planning or will go away after you say 'I do.' If anything, it will only exacerbate them."

I wish I'd known: How much work wedding planning really is
Says Audrey, "The one thing I wish I had known when I got engaged was just how much of my life planning a wedding was going to take up. Before you get engaged, your wedding is all conceptual in your mind and doesn't seem like such a big undertaking. But once it was really happening, it basically became a part-time job. Every weekend was filled with a wedding activity, my weekdays were filled with e-mailing vendors, making phone calls, meeting with vendors, and more. Looking back I can certainly think of a few ways I would have organized a bit differently, or started on certain projects earlier."

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I wish I'd known: Marriage is ups and downs
Says Chantay, "Before I got engaged, I wish I knew the roller coaster life would take us on. You start out on one ride, and all of a sudden there's this sudden rush into the air and you drop way down while holding your breath and going through a tunnel. I didn't see it coming. I wish I had been more prepared for the adjustments, the highs and the lows, because the element of surprise sometimes can be frightening."

I wish I'd known: Even when you live together first, it still feels different
Says Tiffany, "Because my husband and I lived together for nearly two years before we got married, I expected that not much would change after we did finally get married. Oh, how wrong I was. While we didn't have any big revelations with our living situation like other couples might, how we felt for one another definitely changed. Our love and bond felt stronger, and the idea of being someone's partner took on a whole different meaning. If I had known our love would grow like that, I would have reveled in it and been more excited for it before the big day!"

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