One Mom Gets REALLY Real About What Marriage With Kids Is Actually Like


Chances are, you've dreamed about what married life would be like since you were a little girl. Whether playing with Barbie and Ken in their dream house or simply watching your parents' love throughout the years sparked your interest, it's hard to deny most of us haven't dreamt up our own "perfect life," which oftentimes entails a picket fence and a bunch of kiddos running around as we sit on the porch in marital bliss. But as much as we'd love these dreams to come to fruition, when it comes to real life, things can get a little, er, complicated.

One mom who runs the website The Modern Mumma got super real recently when she described how her married life has changed over the years, whether for better or for worse. The key takeaway from Mel Watts' brutally honest Facebook post isn't that married life is going to suck, but rather that we need to learn to roll with the punches that comes along with having kids and getting older. The outcome from her lengthy confession? A whole lot of other mommas who are feeling the exact. same. way.

She starts out by saying, "Husband. Wife. Roommates? If someone told me years ago that my relationship would one day change, I would have laughed and said no way." Watts goes on to describe how she spent a sleepless night reminiscing over how life used to be with her husband and how it is now, while said hubby snored away as she agonized over what life had become.

"I was mad at him for changing. I was mad at myself for changing. It is no one's fault. It's just a moment in our life where I can say — it's not all roses and handcuffs," Watts wrote in the post.

As she details how date nights have disappeared and shower sex is a thing of the past, we applaud how courageous and downright open she is with the world. She describes how "spray tans and shaved beaver are now for birthdays, nights out and possibly because I just simply feel bad for him."

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But despite all of the major changes in her married life, Watts ends with this positive note:

"So here's to grey pubes [not yet] and sexless nights. No round two's and nothing tight. I wouldn't want to be old and saggy with anyone else!"

The post has since received more than 9,000 likes and 2,600 shares, along with a mass of comments all relating to Watts' struggle with motherhood. Beck Flebig wrote, "I'm so glad I'm not the only one. I've been feeling the exact same lately and I've been really stressing about it and it's making me so upset." Another user, Kel Hurst, gave a wonderful piece of advice passed down to her from her mother, "Make sure your relationship is your first priority. Your kids will grow and leave you. You don't want to be looking at this man in 20 years time and realize you have nothing in common."

So sure, motherhood may be the most difficult thing you ever do, but as long as you have your best friend by your side, it's all going to be ok in the end.

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