Bridesman? Man of Honor? Here's How to Include Your Male Best Friend in Your Wedding Party

Bridesmaids, Etiquette

Just because you're a girl, doesn't mean all of your besties are, too! But wedding traditions do seem to make it harder to include your male BFF in the celebration. Bridesmaids, bridal showers, bachelorette parties, even the bouquet toss — they're all pretty female-centric. But it doesn't have to be the case! We turned to our experts for a few ways to shake things up and include your best guy friend in your bridal party.

You can buck tradition as much or as little as you want when it comes to including your best guy friend in your wedding party. Instead of bridesmaids, consider ditching the labels and simply asking each of your closest friends to stand by your side during your ceremony. You could have him wear a suit that matches the groomsmen and a tie that matches the bridesmaids' dresses, or simply give everyone a color scheme and a style and let them go to town. (Pro tip: A gray suit happens to look fantastic with a blush shirt!)

For the bridal shower, plan something a little less girly and invite your BFF to come a long! Skip the spa day (unless, of course, he has discovered the wonders of a good pedicure!) and opt for a cooking class, wine tasting, or other activity that you'll all love. Same goes for the bachelorette party! You may need to get an AirBNB with one more bedroom so he's not stuck sharing with your sister, but otherwise invite him along! You could also opt for a co-ed shower or a joint bachelor-bachelorette party so he's not the only guy hanging out with your gaggle of girls.

The morning of your wedding, while he may not need hair and makeup (and you might not want him to see you half-naked putting on your gown), invite him to join in with as much of your plans as possible — and make sure he's there for the Big Reveal when your wedding party finally sees you in your dress! Whether that means joining you all for lunch before your stylist arrives or tagging along for an early yoga class, if he's one of your best friends, he'll be thrilled to be a part of it all!

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