Bridesmaid Wars: How to Keep the Peace in Your Bridal Party

Keeping Bridal Party Peace

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Once you've selected your bridesmaids, it's a pretty wonderful feeling to know you'll be surrounded and supported by your best girls on the biggest day of your life. But, by combining your closest family and friends from all pieces of your life into one glorious group, you sometimes run the risk of clashing personalities and differences. While as the bride you have much more important things to worry about, there are some steps you can take to help keep the peace in your bridal party just in case the inevitable conflict happens.

Play Hostess
A brunch or cocktail party is a great way for everyone to meet for the first time, break the ice, and have some fun together. Realistically, your girls are going to be spending a lot of money on you through all your bridal milestones (showers, bachelorette parties, accommodations, beautifying, and more). A great way to both show them your appreciation and give them some time to get acquainted early on is to host a bridesmaid brunch, cocktail/dinner party, or other fun activity. It's important for those who have never met to experience one another in a fun, no pressure setting, and more than likely this can serve as the icebreaker every bridal party needs. Plus, who doesn't want another excuse to party?

Utilize Your Maid of Honor!
There's a reason you chose her as your MOH! By appointing your maid of honor as the "point person" for all things wedding, you take a lot off your plate AND remove yourself from most tension and/or drama. Chances are, many things will happen leading up to your wedding day that you will never know about &mash; so find comfort in that! If you sense something is up, mention it to your MOH and ask her if she can help set things right. You'll be surprised how many things may seem like a "big deal" but really aren't, so you don't need to be involved.

Be Clear & Communicate!
When communicating plans, tasks, and timelines, be sure that you (or your MOH) are always clear and consistent. Everyone in your bridal party should be getting the same information — at the same time in the same manner as everyone else — so that no one feels left out or is the "last to know." A simple miscommunication can lead to a whirlwind of drama when dealing with large groups (even though it shouldn't), so prevent them at all costs.

If it gets to the point where tensions are high — or even if things are simply awkward — speak up! While you shouldn't ever be put in that position, at times it might be necessary to let someone know that their misbehavior or conflictual nature is taking away from your experience as a bride. Remind them of your friendship and how important they are to you — that should be more than enough to maintain peace and positivity. Chances are they aren't even aware of how you feel, and the last thing they'd want to do us upset you and put a damper on this special time in your life.

See More: How to Deal When Your Bridesmaids Disappoint You

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