How Can We Politely Remind Guests that Children Aren't Invited to Our Wedding?

Etiquette, Kids
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While cute kiddos are adorable additions to your wedding ceremony processional, entertaining them during cocktail hour and at your reception can be a challenge, which is why a lot of couples opt to have adults-only weddings and skip the kids altogether. But while some parents are excited about the prospect of a night out for two, others may not understand why you want them to leave their little ones at home. So how can you remind guests that children aren't invited? Our experts weigh in.

Clear communication is the easiest way to get the point across. From your invitations to your wedding website, repeating that your wedding is adults-only will definitely help. While you shouldn't put it directly on your invitation, the way you address the envelope (using only the parents' names, instead of "The Smith Family") is the right place to start. Then, on your information card, add a line about the party being just for grown-ups.

On your wedding website, put the adults-only note in a few different places (particularly the details for your wedding day's timing and anywhere you are asking guests to RSVP). Do you have a lot of friends with young children? You might want to arrange a few babysitters to keep them entertained back at the hotel. Include this on your website as well, on the same page with your room block information. Be sure to collect the names and ages of all the children so that the babysitters will be ready for them, whether the kids are toddlers or in elementary school.

If you've heard through the grapevine that a guest is traveling with his or her kids (or saw five people included on the RSVP card when it was for only two), make a polite phone call. Remind your guests that you really want them to be able to enjoy the evening, and that children won't be joining anyone. You could also subtly offer to help them find a babysitter, hinting that they'll have to leave the kids at home — and giving them an opportunity to catch on!

See more: Kids Gone Crazy: How to Handle Unruly Children at Your Wedding

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