This Woman Vowed to 'Stay Hot' for Her Husband, and the Internet Freaked Out

woman says key to happy marriage is staying hot for husband

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"Happy wife, happy life" is normally how the saying goes, but in this newlywed blogger's case, it's more like "hot wife, happy husband." Los Angeles writer Amanda Lauren is receiving some backlash for dishing out controversial marriage advice: is the key to a happy marriage simply to "stay hot" for your husband?

Lauren, 33, married her husband, 35-year-old screen writer Ethan Kass, over four months ago, and has promised to "stay hot" for him for the long haul, reports People. "My husband and I probably have a more traditional marriage than most millennials. If I'm there when my husband gets home from work, I love to make him his favorite cocktail (it's kind of Mad Men, but it works for us)," she wrote in her essay, "Staying Hot For My Husband Is ESSENTIAL to a Successful Marriage" on YourTango. "Sunday is my night to cook dinner. But one of the most important things I do to make him happy is to be the woman of both his fantasies and reality."

So far, four months in, it's working for her, albeit being pretty controversial to the rest of the Internet. "I see the look on my husband's face when I come out of the bathroom, ready for a night out, or the way he checks out my butt on the way to Pilates class. Having an attractive wife makes him happy. They say 'Happy wife, happy life,' but I'm happiest when my husband is happy." In return for looking good, she notes her husband is 'attentive' to her needs and buys her nice things, such as a $400 vacuum cleaner. A vacuum, quite the married life perk (eye roll).

After sharing her essay on the relationship site (which caused everyone to lose their minds over her "anti-feminist" stance), Lauren countered, saying, "Being a feminist is about your own choices and saying, 'This is how I'm going to live my life and I'm not going to let anyone dictate it for me. Everyone has their own definition of feminism, that's mine. But I know what's inherently not feminist — bullying other women on the Internet for their life choices." Touché.

Coming to her own defense and calling her message one of empowerment, Lauren says, "I am saying what a lot of women are thinking and no one wants to admit. I hate to say it, but there's a billion-dollar cosmetic and fitness industry. Billions of dollars can't exactly be wrong — women want to improve themselves. There's no question about it: men are visual — at all ages — and they want you to look attractive, and they want their friends to be jealous."

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So, on the list of "sexy" maintenance to stay attractive for her man? A hair straightener. "All relationships require work, and working on myself is doing the work I need to do for the sake of my relationship. Even if I'm running 15 minutes behind on date night because my hair isn't straightening, my husband can't complain if he's swooning over me."

But it's not all Louboutins and lipstick at all hours of the day. "I work from home, so I basically have two outfits: workout clothes or shorts," she notes. "There are times when I don't brush my hair. I'm so not glam every minute of the day. But when it comes to going out and going to events, I definitely take an hour or an hour and a half to get ready."

And as far as her husband's goals for keeping svelte and good-looking for his wife? There isn't much that Lauren wants to change or maintain. "My husband's a big guy, but I like big guys. I think he's a teddy bear. He's very much my type. I think people have been so mean about that. I like being in shape, but it's not my thing for men." Sounds like a pretty sweet deal for her husband!

While we can't help but think that her relationship sounds a tad bit superficial, we're hoping it's not the case. Lauren elaborates on their connection, "I've never really had someone who loves me and understands me and wants me to be the happiest I can be until I met him," she shared. "We really support and appreciate each other."

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