3 Things You Should NEVER Do When Your Best Friend is Getting Married

Etiquette, Planning Tips
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Your best friend getting engaged is almost as exciting as when you said "YES!" to your own proposal, so let the wedding planning begin! But even if she's your closest pal, there are still a few things you shouldn't do while she's planning her wedding. What should you avoid? Our experts have a few ideas.

1. "If you're already married, don't ever say, 'Well for my wedding, I did...'" says Amy Marella of The Hidden Garden. "She wants to talk about HER wedding, not reminisce about yours!" So while you can totally offer vendor recommendations or tips if she asks for them, let her plan the wedding she really wants, not one that's just a copy of yours.

2. No matter where she is in the process (and what you think about what she's planned!), don't second-guess her choices. "Don't be negative about decisions she has already made. She wants you as a supportive and positive sounding-board during the planning process, not someone to question what she's done so far," Marella continues. If you have a constructive suggestion to offer, like a slight change in the schedule that will make her day easier or a tip for a decision she's unsure of herself, offer it only when she asks. Otherwise, let her plan how she sees fit!

3. Don't pick a wedding date before hers. "If you get engaged after she does, try to choose a wedding date that falls after hers. Don't try to steal the spotlight," explains Marella. Of course, you can't control every calendar and schedule, so you may not be able to totally avoid this one, but do your best to give a little bit of a buffer between your events, especially if you'll have similar wedding parties and guest lists.


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