The 7 Questions You Need to Ask Your Significant Other Before Getting Engaged

Pre-Engagement Questions

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One of the most infamous things people say about love is that it is blind and often times, the two people falling in it don't always see or know everything that they should about each other. So before the question of "Will You Marry Me?" is popped and wedding plans begin to kick off, it's critical that the key, life-changing questions are thrown up on the table — and answered honestly.

Wondering how well you know your partner? Here are seven questions you need to ask each other before getting engaged and then saying "I do."

1. Do you want children?
The question of whether or not you both want kids is something that should be discussed before marriage. If one of you does and one of you doesn't, this is something that should be known and discussed openly and honestly.

2. Where do you want to live?
The location of where you see yourself living and starting a family is something that should definitely be talked about before there's a diamond ring involved. If one of you has goals to move to Florida and the other wants to stay in Ohio for life, a compromise or future plan of action should be considered.

3. How important is religion?
What holidays are most important to you? How often do you want to go to church (or other house of worship? How religious do you want your kids to grow up?

4. Are we open about all our finances?
Do you know each other's financial history or potential past debt? While the idea of talking credit scores isn't very sexy, it's very important.

5. Where do you see us in 10 years?
Life changes even before you have a chance to plan for it too much, but chatting about a future and a 10-year plan is an important way to kick off this conversation.

See More: Why More Engaged Couples Are Attending Pre-Marital Counseling

6. Do you understand my love language?
Since the act of loving another person is often very unique person-to-person, it's important to know if your partner understands all the ways you show your love without actually using the word.

7. What are you willing to give up?
Because life and marriage are all about compromises. It's important to know what the other person is willing to sacrifice and what he or she is not.

Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.

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