'My MIL Is Flipping Out Because I Don't Want Her in the Delivery Room'

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Pregnancy can be a stressful time to begin with, so adding family drama is enough to send any expectant mom over the edge. In BabyWeinerDrama's case, conflict with in-laws is making her new arrival a less-than-blissful time.

She's decided that she wants her husband and mom — but nobody else — in the room with her when she gives birth, and her mother-in-law isn't taking that decision so well, to say the least.

"I really like my MIL. She's kind, warm, and funny. She's also incredibly sheltered, a little whiny, and tends to make everything about her, including the birth of my child," she wrote. "My MIL has been up in arms ever since she found out that my mother would be in the delivery room. At first she assumed that she was going to be there, too but I told her, as gently as possible, that I wouldn't be comfortable having her in there as I will be exposed, swearing, sweating, and just generally a mess."

She wont' take "no" for an answer, though. She even tried to convince her son to let her in anyway. BabyWeinerDrama's not sure what would be worse: having her MIL in the room, or continuing this argument. Reddit weighed in:

"Hold your ground, tell your husband to sort it, and tell the labor and delivery nurses that the only people who get a front row seat to the vagina show are your mom and husband. If she ignores your husband and tries to bully her way in, the nurses will stop that quick. Don't be bullied into having her in the room." —LilaFaith

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"I would tell her that if she can't respect your wishes on this and is even remotely difficult at all on the day of your delivery, she can expect to not be allowed into the room after the birth either. And I would be very, very 100 percent clear with the hospital staff that she is NOT ALLOWED in the delivery room. The staff is generally absolutely used to handling situations like this." —wombatzilla

"Tell the nurses when you're delivering that you do not want her in the delivery room when you're giving birth. They'll take care of the rest. As for how to deal with your MIL before the birth, just stop the conversation if she tries to bring it up: 'We've talked about this before and my mind won't change.' Remember, you owe her no explanation, and 'no' is a complete sentence by itself. This woman is behaving irrationally, and there's no way to combat irrationality with logic." —eshtive353

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"Don't tell her when you go into labor. Don't have her at the hospital. I'm sorry, but screaming at you over the phone means she loses those privileges (they're a gift, not a right). If you're worried she's going to burst in without permission, you'll feel anxious while giving birth. Being anxious about anything other than you and your baby is just going to make giving birth all that much harder. You don't have to put yourself through that for her." —Trintron

What do you think: Should she let her MIL into the delivery room? Should she even let her into the hospital if she keeps acting like this? Sound off in the comments on Facebook!

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