How to Spot (and Deal With!) a Wedding Crasher


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If only life were a movie and all wedding crashers were Owen Wilson and Vince Vaughn... Unfortunately, that's not reality — but having unexpected (or uninvited!) guests show up at your wedding is a real possibility! So how can you spot a wedding crasher, and what should you do when you see one? Here's what our experts have to say.

The most common type of "wedding crasher" is someone who arrives on the arm of an invited guest — either a plus-one you hadn't actually invited or a gaggle of uninvited kiddos. "The best way to avoid uninvited guests is to head them off at the pass," says Sara Fried of Fête Nashville. "You have to really spell everything out for your guests: Write (politely!) that the event is adult only to avoid uninvited kiddos, and customize your RSVP cards with a line to specify how many seats have been reserved for each guest." And if someone does show up with an uninvited guest, put your planner to work. Squeeze in another chair, and let the caterer know that one of those back-up dishes will be headed to the out-of-place seat at table 12.

What about people who really weren't invited, like a guest wandering around the resort at your destination bash or sneaking into the hotel ballroom? Grab the venue's banquet manager or your wedding planner, and ask them to escort the crasher out of the party. You could also ask them to station a member of the staff by the door to keep an eye on people who don't quite meet the dress code. Once they've been spotted, there's a pretty good chance they won't cause any trouble. But if they're persistent, use that white dress to your advantage! Calmly walk up to them and let them know that it's a private party — and that the best wedding gift they could give you would be to please leave!

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