How to Deal When Someone Wears White to Your Wedding

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Wedding dress codes can be a tough nut to crack. What does relaxed cocktail attire, formal morning attire, or boho chic mean, anyway? But the one thing you'd think most guests would know is to never wear white to a wedding (unless, of course, the bride tells you to!). Of course, there's an exception to every rule. So what's a bride to do when a guest shows up in white? Our experts weigh in.

There's not a whole lot you can do when someone arrives at your wedding in a white dress, so the first thing to do is just accept it as fact. Sure, they might be wearing white, but you're the one in a wedding gown, walking down the aisle, and cutting the cake!

Do your best to prevent snide remarks (or an altercation!) by advising your mom and bridesmaids to do the same. Chances are everyone will notice that the lady in question is wearing ivory, so if you're cool about it — and encourage your entourage to be, as well — hopefully your guests will follow suit. Can you prevent the side-eye and hushed comments? No. But put a smile on your face, give her a big hug, and hope that she'll wise up before the next wedding she goes to.

In the (incredibly unlikely) chance that someone shows up in what might be considered a wedding dress — as opposed to a Little White Dress or a cream pantsuit — you may want to say something, but save it until after the wedding is over. Let her know that you were hurt that she showed up in an outfit that distracted from the fact that the day was about you and your new spouse. Hopefully she'll be incredibly apologetic, and tuck that dress into the back of her closet.

See More: Can Beyoncé Get Away With Wearing White to a Wedding?


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