Help! My Groom Picked His Groomsmen's Outfits, and I Hate Them

Etiquette, Grooms
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While grooms may not be eager to get involved in every aspect of wedding planning, there are a few parts they'll want to be a part of, like the music, food, and bar. And if you've got a fashion-savvy groom (or one who knows exactly what he wants his groomsmen to wear!), the guys' attire might get added to his list, too. And what wedding-planning bride wouldn't be happy to have one less thing on her list? But what happens when he comes back with a receipt for a suit order or a shopping bag full of clothes, and you totally HATE what he picked? Here's what our experts say you should do.

First, figure out what it is that you don't like. Did he pick suits when the event is supposed to be black tie? Or opt for ties in a garish color that totally clashes with all of the carefully-planned details? Identify the problem, then start looking for a solution.

For a case of mismatched colors (say, orange-y red when the color scheme is burgundy and mauve), head back to the store with him — armed with color swatches from your linens or bridesmaids' dresses. Either return whatever he's already purchased, or update the rental orders with a new color.

Did he totally miss the dress code? Cross your fingers that no one has bought anything yet! You'll need to either head to a rental shop (or an online suit and tux rental site) and place an order for attire that matches your dress code.

If it's really just a matter of taste (he wants to wear sneakers with his suit or loves the classic three-piece while you're more of a modern, slim-fit kind of gal), see where you can negotiate. Will he and his guys wear dress shoes for the ceremony and change into sneakers for the reception? Or keep the vest but opt for a more contemporary silhouette? Start practicing your compromising skills!

See More: 5 Mistakes Groomsmen Make When Renting Suits and Tuxes

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