Do I Need to Get My Future Mother-in-Law a Mother's Day Gift?

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We get it, etiquette and tradition surrounding the world of in-laws can be tricky, and confusing, especially for holidays and special occasions. We're here to help! But the short answer to whether or not you need to get your future mother-in-law a gift for Mother's Day? Well, yes. She's about to be your family, after all! But what you gift your MIL and how all depends on your relationship, and there are a few things to keep in mind when it comes to selecting the ideal present.

Here are some things to consider when trying to pick out that perfect gift for your future mother-in-law.

First Mother's Day Together?
If it's the first time you're celebrating Mother's Day with your fiancé's family (aka you've been together a year or less) what you do this Mother's Day may very well set the tone for the future. If you are actually spending the day with your future MIL, we recommend giving her a small token for the holiday. You don't have to go all out, but a bit of recognition that she is soon to be your mother-in-law can go a very long way, and will undoubtedly mean a lot to her. We think flowers and candles, along with a sweet card or note, work perfectly in this situation.

Do What You've Always Done
This is for the couple that has been together for a while. If nothing has changed in your relationship status since last Mother's Day, it's perfectly okay to repeat history here. Keep it simple and stress-free by sticking with what you've always done for continuity. Next year you can begin gifting from the both of you as married couple. (Woo!)

Give From the Both Of You
We love the idea of giving a gift from the two of you — after all, you will most likely be doing so from now on for all future holidays, anyway. By gifting from both of you, you can eliminate the stress of shopping alone and picking out the perfect item, since your fiancé knows his mom best! Reciprocate this for your mom too, and you're as good as gold.

Tip: We recommend communicating this with any of your siblings/siblings-in-law ahead of time in case they were banking on chipping in with him again, just to keep things open.

Reflect On Your Relationship
When it comes to gift giving, the gift should reflect (at least in some way) your relationship with the recipient. So in this case, think about how well you know your future MIL, how close you are, and what you want your gift to convey. If you're very close, go with gifts that appeal to her interests and hobbies or express your love and appreciation. If you're still getting to know her, simpler gifts might be more appropriate. Whatever you do, don't go over the top here — it's not about bells and whistles. Stick with what you're comfortable with, and enjoy the day with your soon-to-be family and fiancé.

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