My Brother is Going to be an Usher. Can I Ask Him to Get a Haircut for the Wedding?

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Including family and friends in your wedding ceremony is a great way to honor the people you care about. If they're not already groomsmen, brothers can make great ushers, perfect for escorting Grandma to her seat and helping guests navigate which side of the aisle they should sit on. But what if your college-aged brother is rocking a college-appropriate haircut and beard that isn't his most groomed look? Our experts weigh in on whether you can ask him to get a trim.

Before you get to the point of demanding that he get a haircut, think back to your last major family event. Did he head to the barber a few days before and make sure his beard was in check? Then you're probably in luck and he may very well have an appointment scheduled for the week before your wedding — especially if his girlfriend is great at reminding him to shave!

If you're still not convinced, ask the aforementioned girlfriend, your mom, or his best friend to drop a hint or two. Let him know how great he looks when his mane has been nicely maintained. This doesn't mean asking him to totally shave off his lumberjack beard, but instead to trim or groom it so that it looks neat.

But remember, asking your perpetually bearded brother to groom his facial hair is not an excuse to demand that he change his look entirely. Is it reasonable to request that his hair be well-washed, combed, and relatively managed? Yes. But insisting that he go from a man-bun or a goatee to a crew cut and a clean shave is a big no-no. Chances are he'll want to look his best, both at your wedding and in photos, so give him the benefit of the doubt — and have an extra comb or some mustache wax on-hand on your wedding day, just in case.

See more: Exactly When to Schedule Your Pre-Wedding Beauty Appointments

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