A Long-Distance Bride's Guide to Planning Pre-Wedding Events

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long-distance brides guide to planning pre-wedding events

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Whether you moved for school, work, or love, planning a wedding far from the people you care about can be tough, especially if you have friends and family scattered across the country. It can get extra hard when it comes to all the little events surrounding your wedding, like bridal showers and bachelorette parties. Sure, it's normal to ask people to travel for your wedding day, but asking them to make multiple trips for multiple events can feel like you're asking too much. If your long distance relationship isn't with your fiancé, but rather with your friends, we've got a few ideas for bridging that miles-wide gap.

Go to them.
If you've got the flexibility of schedule, make a point to go visit your family and friends for these pre-wedding events, instead of asking a dozen people to make the trip to you. You can group a few events into the same weekend, like a brunch bridal shower followed by an evening bachelorette outing or engagement cocktail party, or make multiple trips (the perfect opportunity to show Mom how your inspiration board is coming along!). This is an especially great idea if you couldn't imagine an engagement party anywhere other than your favorite local Italian restaurant, or have dreamed of a shower at the same hotel where your family always went for Mother's Day brunch.

Take planning into your own hands.
Sure, etiquette says that bachelorette weekends, bridal showers and engagement parties should be planned by members of the wedding party or the bride or groom's family, but if it means you'll need to book a flight to attend a party thrown in your own honor, be proactive. Put together a calendar of weekends when you're free to make a trip home, then narrow it down with your other VIPs. At this point, you can either hand over the reins and let someone else do the bulk of the planning, or you can stay as involved as you want.

See more: Bridal Shower 101: Who is in Charge of Planning It?

Have multiple events in different places.
If you grew up down South, went to college in Chicago, and now call Boston home, you've probably got pockets of friends all over the place. It might not be feasible for your friends to get together from across the country, so instead, consider having a few separate showers or engagement parties with each group. We love the idea of a more formal bridal shower at home, hosted by your mom or sister, an engagement party-meets-couples shower in your new hometown with your fiancé and the whole gang, and a destination bachelorette weekend somewhere easily accessible for both your childhood and college besties. Sure, it's a lot of flying, but it will give you a chance to celebrate with everyone you love — not to mention a few more opportunities for a glass of champagne!

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