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Figuring out your wedding guest list is hard enough, so the last thing you probably want to do is put together yet another guest list for your morning-after brunch. However, inviting everyone to join you the next morning can feel like hosting another reception, with the catering costs to match. So can you cut this list down, or do you have to invite all of your guests for a farewell/hangover breakfast? Our experts weigh in.
The short answer is no, you don't have to invite everyone to the morning-after brunch, but you should definitely be intentional about who you do invite. Immediate family? Definitely. Wedding party and their plus-ones? Put them on the list! Grandparents? Mm-hmm!
Beyond that, use your discretion, but be consistent. If you're going to invite extended family members (aunts, uncles, and cousins), do so for both of your families. If you want to add some of your friends to the list, it should be all of your friends on both sides, as well as your mutual friends. Of course, at that point you might as well just invite everyone!
If you're keeping the guest list small, either include an insert in the invitations that are destined for the guests in question, or send out an e-vite to more easily track RSVPs. Don't put the brunch on your wedding website, otherwise the rest of your guests might assume they're also invited.
If you do end up inviting everyone to your brunch, there are a few ways to help keep the cost low. Limiting the breakfast offerings to coffee, tea, juice, pastries, and fruit is a great option, as is a limited buffet of scrambled eggs, potatoes, and bacon. Skipping the alcohol (sorry, no mimosas and bloodies!) will also help you limit the costs. If your venue has a bar and offers brunch cocktails, guests could head to the bar to purchase drinks themselves.
Don't feel badly about shrinking down the brunch guest list. Remember that you'll be tired (and you'll have spent the entire night before socializing!), so you might not be doing much more than sipping strong coffee, anyway!