Our Flower Girl is Throwing a Fit Right Before the Ceremony... Can We Fire Her?

Etiquette, Kids
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The tiniest members of your wedding party may be the cutest, but they can also be the most volatile. After all, you probably won't see a bridesmaid having a temper tantrum about putting on her dress, but a three year old flower girl who missed her nap due to the excitement? It happens more than you'd think. So what's a bride to do if that meltdown happens right before everyone's supposed to head down the aisle in your wedding ceremony? Here's what our experts have to say.

First, see if there's something that can be done to calm the child down. Would walking down the aisle with mom or dad cure a case of stage fright? Offer that as an option, especially if the parent in question is in the wedding party — it will seem like you planned it all along! Or would a sweet bribe (something that won't melt, like gummy bears) do the trick? Pull out every trick you have to see if it will solve the problem.

If no amount of pleading or negotiating will help (and if you've got an over-tired, hungry, or overwhelmed toddler, there's a good chance nothing will), you might need to go to plan C and "fire" the little tyke. Stash the basket of petals, tuck the ring into the best man's pocket, and send the bridesmaids and groomsmen down the aisle as planned. Then pause for dramatic effect at the end of the aisle, wait for your processional song to start, and head to the altar.

Of course, you'll still want to capture some of the cuteness in photos. If the flower girl or ring bearer has calmed down by the time the ceremony is over, include him or her in your pictures alongside the bridesmaids and groomsmen. It will be a great story to tell in 20 years at their wedding!

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