My Friends Are Throwing Me a Bridal Shower — What Do They Need From Me?

Etiquette, Showers & Parties
friends are throwing me a bridal shower what do they need from me

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Tradition states that the bride doesn't host her own bridal shower, but instead the honor falls to a female family member or close friend. So while you get to sit back, relax, and enjoy the party, there are probably some things your hosts should know — but what? Here's what our experts think you should share with your bridal shower hosts as they start planning.

The most important thing about planning a bridal shower? Making sure the bride is there! Let whoever will be hosting your shower know when you're available, whether you're going out of town or have a big work project coming up. Not sure who's hosting? Share a calendar with your mom and your maid of honor, since the shower hosts will most likely be contacting them to arrange the details. If you live far from home, talk to your mom about whether she was hoping to throw you a shower, then plan a trip home for the occasion. The date won't be a surprise, but you don't need to know any other details!

You should also share a potential guest list with your shower hosts, including any friends, family members, and future in-laws that you'd like to include (along with their mailing addresses!). This way your aunt isn't guessing which of your friends are closer than others, and your college bestie isn't trying to navigate your list of cousins.

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Even if you're leaving the event up to the hosts, you should mention if there are traditions you'd rather avoid. Does the mere thought of opening gifts in front of everyone make you totally embarrassed? Or maybe you don't think making wedding dresses out of toilet paper sounds particularly fun. Share what you'd like to skip to help ensure it's an event you absolutely love.

And finally, let the host know if there are things you really need to know. A common request? To tell you where to be, when to be there, and what to wear. There's nothing worse than showing up for what you didn't know would be your bridal shower in your favorite yoga gear instead of a chic Little White Dress!


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