Who Do I Need to Get Flowers for on Our Wedding Day?

Etiquette, Flowers
who do i need to get flowers for

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Flowers play a huge role in weddings. They top tables, line aisles, are woven into hair, and of course are carried by the bride and her bridesmaids and pinned to the grooms' lapels. But beyond the members of the wedding party, who else do you need to include in your budget for personal flowers? Our experts have a few guidelines to follow as you're figuring out for whom you should get flowers.

Not surprisingly, this question comes up all the time when clients meet with their florists. So what's the answer? "The real answer is that there are no rules, and you can choose to give flowers to whomever you wish," says Liz Griffith, owner of Siloh Floral Artistry. "Every wedding is unique to the couple, and just because it has been done one way or another doesn't mean it has to be your way."

However, there are a few things to keep in mind as you decide who will be getting flowers on your wedding day. "Think about whether giving someone flowers to wear or carry will make them feel honored, valued, or special as a part of your wedding. And remember their personality. Would they want to carry or wear flowers, or would they rather not? And third, think about whether it would be practical or possible for them to wear or carry a flower. These questions will usually help a couple narrow down who they would like to give flowers to," Griffith explains.

See more: Don't Fall for These 5 Common Wedding Flower Mistakes

As a rule of thumb, she recommends that anyone who will be prominent in pictures or part of the processional be given flowers to wear or carry, including:
- The Bride
- The Groom
- Bridesmaids
- Groomsmen
- Parents of the Bride and Groom
- Grandparents
- Ring Bearers or Flower Girls

If you wish to honor other people in your wedding, giving them flowers to wear or carry is a great way to do so. "Remember that this isn't necessary and can be decided on a case-by-case basis, but that it could be a meaningful option," says Griffith. Additional people to provide flowers for could include:
- Siblings not acting as bridesmaids or groomsmen
- Ushers
- The Officiant
- Extended Family Members
- Ceremony Readers
- House Party

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