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Typically women spend their night as single women with a few good friends or by themselves, contemplating the huge change their life is about to take. And then, there are stories like these women, who spent the night before their wedding in very unique ways.
"The night before your wedding is an extremely short, yet significant, moment in time. That night I got ready for bed really early. I wanted peace and quiet, and a last night with just me and my mom. She and I ate dinner together. During the meal, I asked her to share some words of wisdom of what she'd learned while being married. At night, I slept together with my mom in her bed. I can't remember ever doing this since I was a little girl. We didn't even talk; it was actually very quiet as we were trying to fall asleep. We were consumed by our own thoughts and memories as we lay in bed. It was comforting to have my mom next to me that night. She was my rock throughout my life, and I wouldn't be the woman I am if it weren't for her unconditional love. I felt safe, protected, and loved. I had no trouble falling asleep that night and felt well rested for the big day." —Rebecca
"The afternoon before my wedding, my sister's maid of honor gown slipped out from all the other gowns when we carried them through the parking lot to my apartment. A neighbor picked the gown up and brought it to her apartment, leaving a note on the bank of mailboxes about holding the gown for the owner to pick up. Of course we never looked at the mailboxes for a note. With only hours to spare before our evening church rehearsal, I found myself at a department store with my sister (and all our bridesmaids) trying to find her a new gown. We found one and the department store altered it by the following morning only two hours before the wedding. We found the note about the original gown when we got home from our honeymoon!" —Denise
"As an updated take on a Chinese tradition, my aunts and girlfriends participated in a version of a hair-combing ceremony. After the wedding rehearsal the guys left, and my most senior aunt combed my hair while dispensing wisdom on marriage and giving blessings. Of course, when it came to my girlfriends' turns, it turned into raunchier sex advice and anecdotes!" —Mariana
"The night before my wedding was a family night in, complete with my groom (and long time sweetheart) and our son who would be part of the nuptials the following day. Spending this sacred night with my two favorite people was the best way possible to usher in a new beginning." —Sandie
"We were married 8:30 AM on New Year's Day. The night before we had a huge party with geodesic domes in the backyard, fire spinners, hula hoopers, and friends from all over the USA. Someone even invited a crackhead in from off the street. My groom and I were writing our wedding vows at 4:30 AM!" —Judy
Sherry Amatenstein is a New York City-based marriage therapist and author.