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You've said "I do" and have made it official, riding off into that sunset together. But, when it comes to wedding night — what if your newlywed sex life isn't all it's been cracked up to be (or that you may have built it up to be in your head)?
It's no secret that sex is an incredibly important (and fun) part of married life. If you've imagined hot, romantic, steamy newlywed nights but your reality is far from it, don't stress. Many newlyweds find themselves in this situation, and with a little bit of help from us you can get back on track to newlywed bliss in no time.
Stop Stressing It
Stress is a serious libido killer. When you're stressed out, you're exhausted, distracted, and generally not feeling yourself — so it's no surprise it affects your romantic life too. Maybe work has been piling it on since you've gotten back from your honeymoon, or perhaps you've jumped into the home buying market. Whatever it is that's on your mind, try to relax — it can do wonders for your sex life. Take a hot bath, get in some cardio, or try organizing your thoughts on paper. Do what you need to do to get the stress off your mind. Try to enter each romantic encounter with a clear and relaxed mind AND body — it WILL make a difference.
Make Time to Make Love
Savvy brides know that in the throes of wedding planning, a calendar and time management was key in staying organized and making sure there was time for everything to get done. For many, just because the wedding is over doesn't mean your lives have gotten any less busy. If you have to (and there's no shame in this) make it a priority to get down to business and find the time that works for you both. By consciously making it a part of your schedule, it not only ensures you have time, but also gives you something pretty awesome to look forward to. Who wouldn't mind checking sex off a to-do list?
Communicate, Communicate, and Communicate
By now you've probably heard (a thousand times) that communication is key to a successful and happy marriage. It's also critical to happy, healthy, and rewarding sex. Communication can also be a huge turn on, when done properly. Start with the positives: What aspects of your sex life do you love and appreciate? What about your partner turns you on the most? Then, add in what you would love to see change, new ideas you have had, and what's been on your mind. The ultimate key to this type of communication, however, is to be open about and prepared to listen, too.
Spice Things Up!
Maybe you've gotten "too" comfortable, complacent, or distracted. There's a solution for that, too. Not that you have to do anything crazy (unless you both want to, that is!) but something as simple as new lingerie, music, or a different setting can add some spice and excitement to your bedroom routines. Feeling a bit more adventurous? Consider introducing new sex positions, toys, or other experiences you've maybe always thought about but haven't yet tried (after communication, of course). There's never a better time than the present to have some fun!