Real Brides Confess: What I Really Thought After I Got Engaged

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In the afterglow of you beau's proposal, you'll surely feel joy. But once the shock of this all-important moment wears off, other emotions — from fear and stress to all-out excitement — are sure to hit. Here, five brides reveal what crept into their heads in the moments after they agreed to marry the loves of their lives.

"I thought: He's my family."
While Kelly's first thought was amazement her man pulled off a surprise proposal, her disbelief quickly turned to over-the-moon excitement. "It was every emotion on the scale you could possibly think of and such a big moment," she describes. "I couldn't stop smiling — and of course, looking at my hand. The next morning, when I woke up, I looked at him and everything changed. I felt so much closer to him and like he was really my family now. I couldn't have been more excited, more shocked, and more in love."

"I thought: I'm scared."
While Kristie had been with her boyfriend for just shy of 10 years before he popped the question, fear still crept in after she said yes. "I love him, and we have a great relationship," she says. "But for some reason, I started thinking, is he really the right guy? Where do we go from here? How are our finances going to be? I second-guessed every aspect of our relationship for some reason. But I snapped out of it within a few minutes."

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"I thought: I'm not sure I can plan a wedding."
Alexis was overjoyed when her boyfriend proposed. "I was really excited, very emotional, and simply over the moon. It wasn't until after our vacation — maybe about a week or two — a little bit of stress came over me." While Alexis didn't stress over becoming a wife, she worried about planning a wedding. "So much stress surrounds wedding planning," she explains. "The best move I made was hiring a wedding planner. I'm a little less stressed out — just a little — because of it."

"I thought: I'm worried about money."
Kari was thrilled with both her boyfriend's proposal and her ring. That is, until she considered the cost. "After the initial shock started to wear off, I had a small freak out that we no longer had the significant amount of money we'd put away for my ring," she says, adding that money had once served as an emergency fund. "As we were celebrating, I actually stopped and said, 'Oh sh—t! We don't have that money anymore, do we?" While I was very excited to be engaged, I had no interest in starting to plan right away — thanks to our very depleted savings."

"I thought: I can't wait to start planning."
Almost moments after her boyfriend proposed, Jennifer was ready to plan their wedding. "I was so excited after my engagement I dove head first into planning," she says. But soon, the stress of planning a wedding took its toll on this over-eager bride. "The stress of planning a wedding was really starting to dawn on me, and I had a foreboding that I would really fall far down a rabbit hole of self expectations and would steer far away from the simple, stress-free wedding I imagined," she says. "And my fears became reality, unfortunately."

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