Can I Put Someone in Charge of Making Sure We Get all the Family Photos We Want?

Etiquette, Wedding Photography

You've come up with a list of the pictures you have to have, and reviewed every item with your wedding photographer. There's just one catch: Your photographer has no idea what your family members look like! If you want to streamline the process and make sure you get every picture you want from your wedding day, can you put someone else in charge of wrangling people to come pose with you? Here's what our experts have to say.

The short answer is: Yes! If you've got one outgoing, friendly, and knowledgeable person who will be able to identify the guests who need to be photographed, chances are your photographer will be thrilled to have the extra help. Even better? Nominate one person from each of your families (a sibling is a great option!) to round up your respective friends and relatives.

To make this run as smoothly as possible, share the list of must-have pictures with the designated guest-wranglers in advance (even just the morning of the wedding is fine) so they have an idea of who to keep close by after the ceremony. And make sure that list of photos is organized!

Start with a photo of all of your guests, then let anyone who isn't a family member or in the wedding party go to cocktail hour. Next, have your entire extended family join the two of you for a picture. Dismiss your distant relatives and take a picture with your immediate family, grandparents, aunts and uncles, and cousins, followed by just the immediate family and grandparents, whittling down to a smaller and smaller group. Repeat for the other set of family members, and finish up with portraits of the two of you with your parents and siblings.

You're all done with family pictures when only the two of you and your wedding party are left! Then take photos as a group, send your bridesmaids and groomsmen to cocktail hour while you take couple portraits, and then meet your guests to get the party started!

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