What to Say When You're Taking Wedding Planning Slowly (and People Won't Stop Bugging You About It)

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Take Wedding Planning Slowly

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You've seen too many girlfriends get engaged then enter Wedding Planning Hell the very next day. You are NOT going to follow that path. You and your fiancé are going to take it easy, take your time. Enjoy just being engaged, basking in the newness of it all. Lingering here, not planning, not doing, not checking out venues or tasting cakes. Not yet. But family, friends, coworkers, and even strangers can't understand why you're waiting. To this behavior, we'd argue, nor should they.

Essentially, it's none of their business why you're holding off on wedding planning. (Ideally it's because you're blissed out. But maybe you've got some relationship issues to hammer out first. Or you're dealing with a sick parent. Or legal issues. It may not all be crazy-in-love bliss that's holding you back, we know.) Whatever your reason, there's no need to explain to your random co-worker why you're not wedding dress shopping yet.

What to do with these nosy folks? Divert, divert, divert.

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First, share how happy you are, what a special time this is, and how you want to stay in this non-planning bubble, because you've seen how hopping-to-it pops it ASAP.

Second, pull out a pretty little wedding-y notebook from your purse (that you've bought specifically for this situation — the real planning notebooks will come later, when you're ready).

Third, ask Nosy Co-worker, "Tell me about one thing you loved at your wedding? Or what's one thing you've seen at weddings that you thought was really, really cool?"

Fourth, take cursory notes, which will telegraph your "interest" in what she's saying. Know you'll never, ever have to look at these again, unless you want to.

Fifth, notice how you've deftly steered the focus away from your non-wedding-planning. Accompany Nosy Co-worker on her journey down memory lane, say "Thanks for the suggestion!" and return to your happy, non-wedding-planning bubble.

Allison Moir-Smith is a bridal counselor and author, and solves your family, emotional, and sticky wedding-planning situations at The Bride Whisperer.

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