We Messed Up Our First Dance — Can We Start Over?


You've made it through the wedding ceremony and cocktail hour, managed to eat during dinner (hopefully!), and now it's time for the first dance. Whether you've spent months practicing a choreographed routine or are opting for the classic High School Sway, this moment in the spotlight can be nerve-wrecking. The thought of missing a step, while not enough to throw off your entire day, can still be stressful. What can you do if your first dance isn't going as planned? Here's what our experts say you should do to get your groove back.

Even hours of rehearsal can't prepare you for all the things you'll be feeling during your first dance: Love, excitement, nerves, relief. And once that music starts, it can feel like there's no going back. So what if you and your fiancé mess up your choreography, can you start over? If you're only a few bars into the song, go for it. Let your musicians or DJ know to try it again from the top, smile (and laugh if you can!), take a deep breath, and get back into position. If you're more than halfway through the song, try your best to recover gracefully. Count the beats to get back on track, or trade in your fancy footwork for a simple sway or twirl. Chances are your guests will be too busy wiping happy tears out of their eyes to even notice! And anyone who has ever been on stage will tell you, the show must go on!

See more: Is It Weird to Skip the First Dance?

What if that misstep comes in the form of an interruption? The same rules apply. If you've just started the song, try it again from the top. If you're further along, just roll with it. You might consider beckoning to your wedding party to take the dance floor with you, transitioning from a moment in the spotlight to the beginning of a dance party with the people you love. And luckily, the most common type of first dance interruption is impossibly cute: A flower girl or ring bearer who wants to join in on the fun. Embrace the sweet photo opp, and finish out the song as a trio — and be sure to save the pictures for their own wedding in 20 or so years!

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