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You've spent a lot of time thinking about how you'll incorporate your beliefs into your ceremony (and maybe even your reception), but have you thought about how different religions might affect your wedding party? Especially if you have a bridesmaid or two who practices a more conservative religion, you might want to think through how your choices, from the bridesmaid dresses to the bachelorette party plans, will affect her. Our experts have a few tips for respecting your conservative bridesmaid's beliefs while still making sure your time with bridal party is everything you dreamed of.
Whether she's Mormon, Orthodox Jewish, Muslim, or any other more conservative religion, having a bridesmaid (or bridesmaids!) who is more religious is something a bride should be aware of, but not something that has to get in the way of your plans.
When it comes to the dress, consider giving your bridesmaids a color and style (say, navy blue with a floor-length skirt) and having each of them pick a dress they love. You'll end up with a cohesive mismatched look, as well as a group of 'maids who are all wearing something they feel totally comfortable in. You could also pick a designer, like Amsale or Jenny Yoo, who offers a range of styles in the same fabrics and colors for an extra dose of cohesion.
For your bachelorette party, don't cancel your trip to Vegas just yet. Check in with your 'maid to see if she'd be comfortable joining you for a night of dancing, whether or not she drinks. And be sure to include a few activities that are all-inclusive, like a delicious dinner, a few hours at the spa, or something more active like go-karting. This way she won't feel left out if she heads home before the rest of the girls, and you'll still have ample opportunity to spend time with her throughout your trip.
If your bridesmaid has a religious dietary restriction (i.e. she keeps Kosher or follows a Halal diet), make sure to get the specifics in advance, and share them with your caterer. It may be as easy as providing a delicious vegetarian option, but she'll be happy you asked, and you'll be happy she's got something tasty to eat!