6 Creative Ways to Ask: "Will You Be My Bridesmaid?"

Bridesmaids, Planning Tips

You're engaged! Time to start planning the big day, right? Not so fast. Now that you've said "yes" to happily ever after, it's time to pop the question yourself and ask sisters, friends, extended family, or co-workers to be your bridesmaids in your wedding. Rather than sending the chosen ones a mass email between contacting potential caterers, why not get a little creative with the time-honored question?

Sarah Chancey, founder of wedding planning and design company Chancey Charm, recently helped stage a bridesmaids luncheon that celebrated the bride-to-be's true "gems" in her life. The gemstone theme naturally lent itself to a bright color scheme, finger foods that were a feast for the eyes, and a piece of jewelry for each woman who was asked to be a part of the wedding day.

Another festive way to gather your girls is to propose a group wine tasting night at your home. Andrea Freeman, founder of Andrea Freeman Events, recommends waiting until the end of the evening to present the final ready-to-sip selection: a delicious white or red varietal with a custom label that playfully asks the imbibers to be bridesmaids for the big day. Needless to say, you'll be toasting yourselves the rest of the night.

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Aviva Samuels, founder of Kiss the Planner, keeps food and beverage in mind when it comes to asking pals to serve as bridesmaids. "Invite the gang over on the pretense of enjoying some takeout Chinese food and a movie. When it comes time for the fortune cookies, hand out custom-made sweets (you can buy them online) with "Will you be my bridesmaid?" on the little white fortune paper inside."

Can't get the squad together all at once? Don't fret. Samuels suggests organizing a special day with each woman and meeting her for a to-go coffee first. "Ask the barista to write the question on the cup — instead of your friend's name — as a surprise." Just make sure your pal reads it before she drains her java!

If you have a sense of humor, "gifting your gals 101 Uses for a Bridesmaid Dress (with a personal note inscribed inside!) is a tongue-in-cheek way of making the ask," says Camille McLamb, founder of Camille Victoria Weddings.

If quirky or non-traditional gestures aren't your thing, a simple gift box filled with wedding-related items is usually a safe bet. Samuels says to pick out a bottle of pretty nail polish (perhaps to match your wedding color scheme if you have one), a mini bottle of bubbly, and the DVD Bridesmaids to go along with a sweet, handwritten note. Then, deliver the gifts in person or have them sent to everyone — so you'll have plenty of time to begin the real wedding planning and await excited phone call responses with the resounding answer, "YES!"

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