Can My Fiancé and I Hang Out the Morning of Our Wedding?


There are all sorts of traditions about the bride and groom spending time together leading up to the wedding. Your mom or grandmother might have spent the night (or week!) before separate from your dad or grandfather, and chances are they didn't have a first look before they walked down the aisle. But what if you live together, know you won't sleep well alone, or just think these practices are a little antiquated? Here's what our experts think about spending time together before your wedding.

If you're used to having your fiancé by your side as you're falling asleep, chances are you might get a better rest if you stay together the night before your wedding. After all, you'll want to get a good night's rest! This is especially true if you're marrying in the city or town where you live and want to just crash at your own house (particularly if the bridesmaids will be coming to you in the morning) or if you've planned a destination wedding. Why rent two hotel rooms? This way you'll get an extra night in that fabulous suite.

The next morning, there's no need to kick him out if your schedule allows for some time together. You could plan to grab breakfast just the two of you, or meet up with the whole wedding party for a pre-wedding brunch. Or keep it intimate and join both of your parents for breakfast before your two families become one.

See more: Making the Most of Your Wedding Morning

Want to really shake things up? Why not get ready together?! This is a great idea for an intimate wedding, whether it's at home or at a remote destination (or for an elopement!). You can help him tie his tie, and he's the perfect extra set of hands to zip you into your dress or hold you steady as you slip on your heels.

Of course, there's a level of anticipation and excitement that you'll want to preserve. You might decide not to kiss until your first look (or at the altar!), or make sure he's out of the way before the primping begins so it still feels like a big reveal. Even if you help one another get ready, spend a few moments apart before your ceremony to really absorb the whole day and the emotions you're feeling. Then get excited — you're about to step out and see your almost-husband!

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