I Was a Bridesmaid in a Friend's Wedding, Does She Have to Be One in Mine?

Bridesmaids, Etiquette

Getting asked to be a friend's bridesmaid is super exciting. Someone you love is getting married and you get to be a part of it! But when it comes time to plan a wedding of your own, do you have to return the favor and make her one of your bridesmaids, as well? Our experts weigh in.

Choosing a wedding party can be fun, exciting... and hard. Do you invite your fianc&eactue;'s sister? Should you choose friends from childhood, high school, college, or your post-college life? Will they all get along? It can feel like information overload. And then throw in the married gals who have asked you to stand by their side at their weddings, and the list of options seems never-ending.

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Once you've narrowed down the VIPs, address the women who had you as a bridesmaid in their weddings. If the wedding was fairly recent and you're still super close, by all means, sign her up for yours! If the wedding was a few years ago, or you feel like you've grown apart, you're totally justified in choosing other bridesmaids for your own wedding, though you should probably still send the friend in question an invitation to attend as a guest.

You should also keep size in mind. If you really only want two or three bridesmaids, no one will be offended if your two sisters get the nod but friends don't. However, if you're planning to dress a dozen women in matching dresses, it might be worth it to add one more to avoid hurting someone's feelings.

One situation where you should 100% have your friend be a bridesmaid, no matter what? If she is either married to your brother or is your fiancé's sister. She's family now, so if she included you, you should include her, too.

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