What Should You Do If You and Your Spouse Fight at Your Wedding?

Etiquette, Relationships
what should you do if you and your spouse fight at your wedding

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Fighting with your true love is hard enough, but it's even more tough when it happens on a day when all eyes are on you and everyone has gathered to celebrate your love. So what happens if you butt heads on your wedding day? Whether it's a little spat or a total blow-out, our experts have a few tips to help you handle the situation.

Take a deep breath.
The very first thing to do is cool off. Excuse yourself to a quiet room where you can gather your thoughts. You'll probably want a few minutes alone before the two of you address the situation, so find a spot where each of you is on your own.

Do damage control.
If there were witnesses, ask your maid of honor or best man to let them know that everything is fine, and politely request that they keep it to themselves. You won't want guests coming to see if you're alright — or hunting for a spectacle.

See more: 8 Reasons Fighting Dirty Could Hurt Your Marriage

Get to the bottom of the problem.
If it's a minor planning detail, the two of you need to accept that weddings are never perfect and focus on all the wonderful things that are happening. If it's something more loaded, like an altercation with your in-laws or an intoxicated guest, do what you can to smooth things over. Apologize (genuinely!) if one of you has offended someone, or serve as a mediator between your family and your new spouse. In the case of a guest who's indulged a little too much, ask your best man or wedding planner to help get them some water and a ride home.

Keep it in perspective.
Remember that your wedding is just one day, and it's a day when tensions and emotions are high, so something that normally would be totally benign carries more weight than usual. Brush off anything minor, remember why you're marrying this person, sneak a quick kiss, and head back to the party. And if it's a larger issue that won't be solved in a few minutes, you're allowed to say that, while you know how important it is, you'd prefer to address it once the wedding is over and you have the time and energy to devote to dealing with it.

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