Here's the Best Way to Ask for an Engagement Ring Upgrade

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Best Way to Ask for an Engagement Ring Upgrade

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You love your significant other, but since the day he or she popped the question, you've been less than in love with your engagement ring. You've waited patiently until you can pop your own question: May I have an upgrade, please? But before you utter those six little words, consider an expert-approved way to ask that will spare your soon-to-be spouse's feelings and get you just the ring you want.

Before you ask for an upgrade, recommends Dana Walden Bridal co-founder and creative director Radika Chin, consider what an upgrade actually means to you. Ask yourself: Is it a larger diamond. Would you be happy with a new setting? Or do you need a brand spanking new ring? Says Chin, "Set time aside to discuss these ideas with your partner, openly and honestly."

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Then, once you've talked about your desires and expectations for your new engagement ring, it's time to set a budget, Chin says. "Setting a budget range from the beginning is the best way to upgrade your ring in a way that is stress-free and fun," she says. Consider what your significant other can spend, and what you're willing to contribute to the cost.

Finally, rather than starting from scratch on a new search, consider first meeting with a jewelry designer. "Talk to them about your ideas and be honest about your budget," she says. "A good designer will offer realistic options and advice on how to achieve your goals, and they will always respect your budget. An excellent designer will use their expertise to offer options that you never knew existed."

For example, says Chin, "I encourage my upgrade clients to start by enhancing their current engagement ring with a unique stacking band." This is a cost-effective way to reimagine your ring. A modern engagement ring can be made to feel vintage, she says, "with a thin deco-inspired band. Sometimes this option is all you need for a little extra flourish, as opposed to a completely new ring."

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