How Should You Arrange an Uneven Wedding Party?

Bridesmaids, Etiquette
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You've chosen the date and the venue (and, of course, the guy!), so now it's time to choose who will be standing by your side on your wedding day. But what if you and your fiancé can't agree on how many people to include in your wedding party? Don't fret — if one of you wants to include more people as bridesmaids or groomsmen, go for it! Our experts have a few tips for sending them all down the aisle (and arranging them at the altar), no matter how many friends you choose to include.

When it comes to walking down the aisle, you have two options. First, you can send your wedding party down the aisle single-file, either sending all the groomsmen down, followed by all the bridesmaids or alternating between bridesmaids and groomsmen. "This way, no one will really notice the numbers are uneven," says planner Becky Navarro, owner of Pearl Events Austin. You could also send them down in pairs, having any groups of multiples (two bridesmaids and a groomsman, or two groomsmen and a bridesmaid) at the end of the processional. Use this same tactic for the recessional, as bridesmaids and groomsmen meet at the altar and head back up the aisle behind you.

See more: What to Do When Your Wedding Party Doesn't Get Along

Up at the altar, feel free to get creative! "Instead of splitting bridesmaids and groomsmen up, have them alternate girl/boy/girl/boy on either side," Navarro suggests. This is an especially great idea if you and your groom have a close-knit group of friends who would be right at home no matter which side their on. If you're looking for a design-savvy alternative (and have space to work with), consider adding rentals like settees, ottomans, or couches around the altar and having your wedding party take a seat.

"Almost half of our couples have uneven wedding parties, so our best advice is to just go with it!" says Navarro. "Don't feel obligated to invite additional people to be part of the wedding party just for the sake of symmetry."

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