Real Grooms Dish: What He Really Thinks About Wedding Planning


What do guys really think about your wedding? We grilled 310 newlywed men about everything from the bachelor party to the first dance and discovered that — surprise! — 77 percent were excited to plan the big day. For more on what your beau is really thinking, keep reading.

They care about planning
75% of grooms were surprised by how into the wedding details they were, including Miami Heat player Dwayne Wade. "You know how they say the wedding's about the woman? No, no, it is about both of us. I came out to my own song, had my own moment. I had three outfit changes; she had three outfit changes." —Dwyane Wade married to Gabrielle Union

How often did they and their partner talk about the wedding?
64% Every day
24% Once a week
8% A few times a month
4% Only when they had a major decision to make
56% thought about eloping at least once.
1 out of 3 invited an ex-girlfriend to the wedding. And 22% say their bride was surprisingly cool with it!

They thought a lot about...
"The seating arrangements. I didn't want our guests to have a bad time."
"The flowers. I had never cared about centerpieces in my entire life."
"Our first-dance choreography. We broke out our Dirty Dancing moves."

They're emotional about the big day
In fact, 3 out of 4 guys admitted that they were nervous about some part of the event.
75% had butterflies wait for their bride at the altar
61% took a shot or had a beer or cocktail with their groomsmen before the ceremony.
39% of guys insisted on preapproving their best man's toast.
37% wish they had taken dance lessons— but 11% did!
Despite the calm nerves half admitted to crying during the ceremony.

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They were the most anxious about:
32% Family drama
20% The first dance
15% The vows
9% The toasts

They want to have a bro bash, what kind of bachelor party did they have?
62% A pretty chill night
25% A wild night on the town
13% Of course, one with a stripper
41% traveled for their guys' night out.

They're open about the effect wedding planning had on their sex life
1 in 3 said wedding planning took a toll on their sex life. But don't freak: 69% said sex gets better after marriage.
75% would have been open to abstaining from sex for a month to make the wedding night more special. (Or so they say in retrospect!)

We had to know, did they have sex on their wedding night?
39% Yes, it was smoking hot.
23% Yes, it was loving, sweet, and amazing.
19% Yes, but we were exhausted.
19% No.

They're serious about style, too.
2 out of 3 incorporated the wedding colors into what they wore.
30% wore a tie and 21% wore a bow tie.
45% would have changed into sneakers if they could. And 21% actually did.

If they could do it again, what would they do differently?
"I wouldn't invite kids."
"I'd take more pictures."
"I'd pick a different best man."

The best advice they never got:
"It's your wedding too. Participate!"
"Everyone gets cold feet."
"Forget what you planned. Something will go wrong. Don't worry about it."
"Check the weather!"

The last thing we had to know: would they have been able to plan the wedding on their own?
53% No way! 47% Totally!

Want more genius planning tips? For the best wedding dresses, advice, and big-day inspiration, pick up the BRIDES December 2015/January 2016 issue, on newsstands now and available for download here!

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