What to Do If You Regret Not Asking a Friend to Be a Bridesmaid

Bridesmaids, Etiquette

Bridesmaid remorse is totally normal, especially if you are someone with many close friends, but our experts say that if there's one you truly wish you had not overlooked, mend the situation as soon as possible.

At some point, you have to cut off the list of friends and family you invite into your bridal party, and inevitably, there are one or two people who land right on the cusp of that list. Particularly if you're pulling a few friends here and there from different stages of life, there might be one or two who are a part of larger groups that you can't invite to be bridesmaids. You've set the list and extended the invitations, but it just doesn't sit right with you.

See More: How to Tell a Close Friend She Won't Be a Bridesmaid

We're all for sticking to the original plan, because once you open the floodgate of inclusion, you could find yourself with a bridal party resembling a cheerleading squad. That being said, if you're regretting excluding a particular person, we're of the mind that 'the more the merrier' attitude always makes for a better party.

Don't wait until right before the wedding to mend this situation. Talk to the person as soon as possible if you're sure you want to make this change, but tread lightly: You're probably entering a zone of hurt feelings, and you want to mend those first. We're not suggesting you pour over an apology, but a simple admission of regret goes a long way in explaining that you could not imagine a wedding day without this person by your side. Doing it sooner rather than later means she'll be part of bridal showers and bachelorette parties, and those moments of coming together to celebrate the bride are just as meaningful as the wedding day itself.

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